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| Crimsonian | PostPosted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 8:46 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast |  | Joined: Tue Dec 21, 2010 7:21 am Posts: 60 Website: http://colonelcrimson.wordpress.com Location: Colorado | | Just curious what the best advice is regarding eye contact when making a joke around a woman- should it be done or not?
I ask because I notice that I'm pretty good at making eye contact with women while meeting them, during the rapport stage, and even when negging, but if I make a general situational joke I'm usually looking straight ahead at nothing in particular- especially if I'm in a group.
I know that eye contact shows confidence, which is important, but I've also wondered if doing it when making a joke makes you appear too needy (i.e., could be construed as you watching her to make sure she laughs). Also, I make sure to have a confident tone behind my jokes- they're said with force, with the knowledge that what I say will be funny, and are always audible- but I rarely make eye contact while saying them.
Any thoughts? And would there be any differences between one-on-one and group conversation with this issue?
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| bvanevery | PostPosted: Mon Feb 07, 2011 9:12 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Zealot | Joined: Mon Jan 17, 2011 7:38 am Posts: 349 Location: Winston-Salem, NC | | Like any kind of body communication, it's how you make eye contact that matters. Make confident eye contact. Don't ask me how, just do it. "Your body can do a lot," if you don't think so hard about it.
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| Crimsonian | PostPosted: Tue Feb 08, 2011 1:46 am | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast |  | Joined: Tue Dec 21, 2010 7:21 am Posts: 60 Website: http://colonelcrimson.wordpress.com Location: Colorado | | Do you think eye contact should be held during the entire joke then? If it's in a group, with whom, your target?
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| alezopeda | PostPosted: Tue Feb 08, 2011 6:16 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Sun Feb 06, 2011 4:23 pm Posts: 27 | | I hold eye contact with everybody, straight into their eyes. Shows my dominance and control.
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