I actually have the opposite problem, my voice is too deep, not really really deep but a little too deep for my liking. All I am doing for my case is Practice Practice Practicing talking a slight octave higher and more clearly. All I can say is hopefully with practice it can work and our voice should change if we constantly try and talk the way we want to sound (or in my case sound higher and in your case lower )

Is having a deep voice good?

I have a pretty deep voice but sometimes people
complain that my voice is too soft to hear...

Too deep and too soft? I am slightly confused.

I became conscious of the whole voice thing when a female friend from Poland visited me in London. I was ordering some food and talking to a bunch of friends in English. I was not aware of it, but my voice changes as I switch between the two languages. Because she had never heard me speak English before, she was very shocked. We've shared some intimate times before, and as soon as I switched to English she confessed she wanted to f**k me right there and then (direct quote, by the way).

I may have a slightly bent perspective on this, but voice is fucking key.

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The voice is pretty important.
Actually, the last Polish girl that I've dated had the kind of a voice that was such a turnoff, and I don't even know why.

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Over the course of my Miami workshop, we sarged so much that I completely blew my voice out and as it was recovering, I blew it out again, lol! It does deepen your voice though. I think I went a little bit lower and if I do it another couple times, my voice is gonna be wicked deep.

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Maybe I am 100% completely wrong, and maybe not.
I on the other hand get the feeling its not how deep your voice is, but how confident you sound when you speak.

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This is completely true. Unless your voice is actually bothering people, like Sl!ck's Polish girl, then it isn't an issue if you are comfortable with your voice. But we also change our hairstyle to feel more comfortable with it, as well as how we dress, so if you aren't confident with your voice, then modulating it some isn't something to feel self conscious about.

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I've been listening to an NLP audio book by Chris Howard and he suggests that you vary the tone of your voice within your octave range to match the tone of the person you are talking to.

I vary it depending on several factors and that's probably an unconscious one. I usually modulate to emphasize, but I will match tonalities to create rapport, but you can also use a deep voice when talking to girls that don't have a deeper tone of voice, because it demonstrates the contrast between men and women and can be highly attractive.

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I don't know about matching their tone of voice, it would enhance their comfort level with you, but make them too comfortable, and lose some edge, wind up in the friend zone.
I notice I use different tones of voice for different moods. I have a playful tone, a stern tone, a casual tone, a nervous tone, etc..

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I happen to have a pretty deep voice. 1-900 sounding even, but i'd never had a compliment or a noticeable reaction from it until i started talking more confidently. once i started sarging, and built some confidence, my cadence and tone have really changed for the better, to display that confidence. its sometimes the first thing mentioned, and always the first thing noticed.

confidence fellas. as much as its said, you don't know how true it is until you experience.


best of luck to ya guys.

I just picked up some really interested research of the tone of the voice. Men with deep voices are chosen more frequently as short term sexual partners, have more sexual partners over their life time and are rated more dominant and sexy by women. It seems that the depth of the voice is related to the male sex hormone androgen. Androgen is the male sex hormone which is also tied to physical prowess and aggressiveness and also loosely tied to a competitor’s health and vigor. Puts (researcher) found that low-pitched masculine voices increased ratings of men’s physical and social dominance. He also found that men who felt they were more dominant to their competitors tended to lower their voices when speaking with them. Additionally, men who had deeper voices also reported more sexual partners over the past year.

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More research chris, dam where do you get all this stuff.

Although i dont have a big issue with my voice, i do think its abit deep, but i do talk with a certain smoothness, so its ok. But i sometimes wish it was less deep, its smoking that does me.
I have girls say things like 'you sound sexy over the phone' and im thinking what? Dont i sound sexy in person? What the fuck is up with that?
I'll work on it
I also find people with higher voices tend to get away with saying things more than with deeper voices.

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Over the phone they are focusing largly on your tone of voice, sometimes even more so than the words you are saying, because our minds tend to wander as we're paying attention to the things we are looking at and we just hear the tonality of the person talking to us. In person, they are paying attention to what you are saying, because they are looking directly at you, they are also paying attention to your body language/facial ques, so they aren't consciously focused on your tone, as much and thus don't comment on it.

It's also more socially acceptable to comment on that sort of thing over the phone, than in person, because in person it would sound very forward, because it is considered a small detail, yet over the phone it is considered a legitimate compliment.

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