I watched wedding crashers for the first time in a long time tonight and it sort of brought me a couple of conclusions about what we do, or are trying to do. The first thing I must say about the movie is that although scripted, those guys were good, I mean if you ever needed a wing or canned material, thats how you implement the stuff to a fucking T. Some of the stuff is a little corny, but the mechanics of it all are masterful. Back to my original thought, I realized that if any of us ever do become masters of our trade, we still are victim to one-itis. I feel that its inevitable that we will all one day find that person who makes our lives feel complete. No matter whether you are in the game to get laid, to feel socially accepted or just to have a certain power and confidence to your everyday life, all the practice in the world cannot save us from emotion. I also truly believe that it is the AFC in all of us that will be our saving grace when this moment does arise. Just like at the end of wedding crashers, when Owen Wilson busts into Vince Vaughns wedding, honesty and speaking from your heart is what won the girl. No amount of canned material will help you through a situation like that and this is why we must not loose who we truly are. I think that we can easily get lost in this whole gaming scene and become something we are not, we are not naturals, we are those who work hard towards something we are passionate about and I feel this passion should not be the exploitation of women, but the love of women. We should not end up like Claires douchebag fiancé, who was an asshole throughout the movie and only had the girl because of his looks and his overconfidence, someone who had lost all respect for women because of his success in life. As much as we would all love to have the kind of ability to manipulate women with ease, we should not abuse the power. I truly believe our saving grace is that at somepoint in life, we have all been let down, hurt and emotionally broken. We know what its like to be on the loosing end of matters of the heart and we should never have to put someone in that position intentionally. I guess I didn’t really come to as many conclusions as i thought initially, but with all the game in my head, you start looking at things differently.
Hope to get some traffic on this one, Game on guys!

Greetings Capps,

The way I and a great deal of proffesion Date Doctors see it is is pickup art is not about the hookup but about meeting the right girl in the future. Don't be the jackass, don't use the girl. The game is about respect and making yourself stand out so that you can meet girls who could be the right one in the future, and then you can win over that heart!

Signed,
Dr. Highlander

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Some movies really do help us understand gaming and everything else a lot more. By the way apparently they made a movie about the game

the game is a about making yourself better as person i would never used a girl as a one night unless she wanted it and alot of women go out for that now. but as we seen with afc Adam you maybe fall in love thats life as long as you didn`t lie to her there`s no problem .

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I've ummed and ahhh'ed about PUA for a while now, trying to find a balance in my mind behind my fundimental respect for women (I am proud of the fact that I am a femanist) and the fact that, well, I think my little soldier downstairs is getting sick of just my company.


I think Hitch kinda summed it all up for me.


I think PUA is for getting past 'bitch shields'. I've made a concious decision that that is the point 'Wildchild' ends and Mike begins. When I find the girl who Mike connects with, I'm not scared to kill off Wildchild.

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I can't believe this thread. Am I the first one to really disagree with some parts of you post?

Your post sums up to this:"Having a AFC core deep down inside of us will get us that one girl that will make our lives complete cause our inner AFC will speak from the heart and say what we really feel, and that gets you that one girl. Our new selves won't speak from the heart."

There is so much wrong with this.
- There is no "one girl". Some girls match you better than others, and some girls match you really well.
- Nobody can "complete" your life. This is a self-defeating attitude.
- AFCs hardly speak from the heart because they don't have the balls to. They never learned to be confident. They have a down-talking inner voice. Most guys don't start speaking from the heart until they join the community and learn to be confident and learn to accept themselves.
- Just speaking from the heart won't get you any girls. You gotta have value also. This means confidence, an interesting life, a good outlook, rich character. These are things the game will teach you and help you build.

I just think you have a wrong idea about the game. The game is not about being a player. It's not about being a manipulative liar who hurts girls by fucking them and nexting them. Nor is it about not showing consideration or care.
The game is about self-improvement ie. building our value and women want a man of high value. The game teaches us how to be comfortable, comfortable enough to open up to a girl and tell her how we feel about her.