Hey guys,
Theres this girl I like and we have a lot of classes together. We usually have some small talk but not a lot more than that. I get a lot of IOI's from her, like wanna jog together, wanna bike together back home, she starts a facebook convo and then we just talk about random things. I feel like I got my chance with her so many times but I just fail every time, ruin every thing I build with her, and move closer to the friend zone. I want to build more confidence with her, get her more attracted to me and escalalte from there. I think that my main problems are displaying confidence, and escalating. I just can't understand why I have those problems, because I look good, I'm a freshmen varsity athlete, have a six pack and pretty good grades.
any advice guys?
thanks anyways,
Joker500

Hey, I was the same way man. And you're absolutely right... you need to be playful with her and escalate in touching. You MUST! Even if you're not completely comfortable. You KNOW you have value, you're a good looking guy, so the confidence will just come with practice. Believe in yourself and put yourself in her shoes, she wants to hang out with you for a reason. She might be shy around you too without you realizing it, and it's ok because when you escalate it will create that tension/vibe that you need. If you don't do anything you will be in the friend zone.

Next time you hang out with her, try to increase touching, if you do it playfully and confidently she will comply with you. Try to make her laugh and the more she laughs the more comfortable she'll get, and the more you can increase touching. You can be like... hey I know how to read hands, let me see urs *grabs her hand* and act like ur reading it and say something random.... haha so this line means you like small penises....*see her reaction* if she laughs just be like nahh actually i lied, i just waned to hold ur hands for a sec lol ...Now that's being really playful and direct, I dunno if that's your style but it's mine.

Just remember the important things.. be confident, be playful, and definitely touch and escalate. Good luck man, let me know if you want any specific advice. I'm not a pro, but I'm learning as well and have gotten better with practice.

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I really like the hand reading thing, it is so easy to do, and i've good some good rutines to go with it.
like: "orhh i can see that you are really passionate, you dream of getting married and have kids" (normally girls will agree with this, but if she don't then say something like that she dream about i unconsciously) she should now be really into the hand reading thing, and then you brake the tension, by saying something like "oh and this line means that you are retardet" now her reaction is important, if she is attracted to you, she will probably push or punch you, this is an IOI. you can also say something like "ohh to bad, this line means you're into small penises, i guess we won't be any good together (DHV) let me know what you think about it

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Hey guys,
Thanks for the hand reading idea it sounds great! I'll try it tommorow and tell you how it works. I find it kind of hard to escalate with kino, especially touching. This might be because I'm new, and don't have any experience with it so far. It's good to know that other people felt like me at some point, it makes it easier to handle.. And like I said the confident escalation is not natural for me right now, so should I risk trying things with her? Or should I try it on other girls first?
Thanks guys,
Joker500

Try it on other girls first because you will learn and become more smooth... but don't wait too long for this girl. You gotta kinda set the tone on how you guys see each other. Start slow and don't be too aggressive if you're not comfortable. Don't let her see your nervousness or she will not feel as comfortable if you're not confident while doing kino. When you interact with her smile a lot, look at her eyes a lot, talk slowly sometimes, rub her arms or back sometimes when it feels right and just try to be sexy and genuin.

Try to convince yourself that you are a better catch than her to increase confidence, and try to not over analyze and think too much about what she thinks about you... that was always my downfall

these videos on kino escalation might give you some good tips:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5DsVwYqVhdU

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