well i had this girl and were in the bathroom at her friends house party - so game was good

i found myself not being able to perform how i wanted to. my skills were good ( i could hear it and see it in her face ) just wish i went a little ( ALOT ) longer

anyone got any advice on this? any techniques or something because this is going to be a huge issue later in relationships.

if this is in the wrong part of forum please let me know as well

Tantra, Karma Sutra, pelvic exercises, pretty much no porn?

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so porn is bad, take it masturbation is out as well

Well yea its a total mind fuck, you have no control over yourself, example... well you and I both know one.

You most probably have "some believe anxiety is the culprit, repetitive learned behaviors, excessive or insufficient arousal, or muscular tension." (menshealth) - my eng teacher would be happy I cited

1.When you are with a girl, and I say this with no insult, Calm the Fuck Down, seriously meditate, do some mind fucking on yourself, also do some foreplay on her, it will last longer in actuality and for you in the latter, why? Well you are slowly working your way up to your orgasm, you aren't jumping in with cold feet, your heating up the engine, so thats a first. Calm down, meditate, and a combo of both relax your mind. This will lower anxiety.

Porn is bad overall, its a huge discussion, but trust me, you will be healthy overall, and this goes with masturbating, but once in a while cant hurt in fact I believe it is healthy to do such. As louis C.K once said "if I dont bust one every so often, I will probably fuck a prostitute and then murder her" something like that.

2. this goes with relaxing, BREATHE. Seriously, I can almost guarantee your muscles were tense, you were holding your breath, and just forcing it, relax. Its called making love, not shoving your dick into a box hole, I mean as much as we believe that is what it is, it isn't. So breathe and take it slowly. Like before, when your actually fucking her, do it slowly, take it slow then work up those gears, and then pound her.

3. Now when you do masturbate I suggest Start-Stop method, when you are about to cum, just stop, wait a min, grab a read, then go at it, stop, go stop go. Yea you get the drift, dont stop like twenty times or youll prob get blue balls, but yea.

Also I aint a doctor, so dont take everything I say with 100% guarantee to it, but I have read about this from many psychology cites and menshealth -i truth that one.

3.2 When masturbating, I can also almost guarantee you do it rather quickly, I mean who likes waiting 30 mins, truth is wait 30 mins. Right now you finish in 3-5 mins, so in the field when it matters your hard-wired "so to speak" to finish in 3-5 mins. If I ever do masturbate (and I am part of this galaxy quest on this site not to) I take my time, grab that lotion, some kleenex, and get that jazz music on, and you know what to do next.

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During sex try and put a number, 1 - 10 on how good at feels.

Try and not let it get past 7. When it does, pull out, swap positions, stop what you're doing, tease her

we done foreplay, i went down on her she went down on me etc
yeah i wont lie i do over think this stuff, even when its happening.

just deleted all my porn :'( thats a lot of porn gone

thing about the stop start method is its hard as hell to do, its like you said who wants to wait, especially when im alone. but il start doing that as well.

anyway thanks guys il give this stuff a go and hopefully il be able to perform much better for the next girl ( or her cos she wanted to see me again so i couldnt have been that bad )

What he said is also true, no idea where I heard this one before, but I have and its a fact. The only issue with it, is sometimes you are in love with a chick or she is so fucking good looking it doesnt help. Just tame yourself and train your muscles. If you are getting to hot lets say an 8 or 9, pull out kiss her and maybe go back to eating her out cool off a bit, then go back in. Kinda like in a war game you shoot for to long the gun over heats you gotta wait 30 secs and then shoot again.

fuck yea I just related this to cod :p

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Just relax when you're with her. Also stimulate her alot, at least that's been helping me. Make her reach the point where she's about to get an orgasm (you will feel it and hear it ) and then do your thing. Many times you will get orgasms at the same time. This will feel special to her, and feel as if you have a connection. You will then have a much easier time getting her in bed again

This may or may not help you, but I get this problem every once in a while and it's annoying as hell. I've found that wearing 2 condoms reduces the sensation enough to keep me hard, but keep me from busting.

I think the changing positions is definitely the answer, some positions just make you last a LOT less longer so as he says as soon as it starts to feel too much just change it up. I always think the girl on top is one that doesn't feel that great for me.

I also have another method and you just simply try and put yourself somewhere else. "Magret Thatcher naked on a cold day" as Austin Powers says to himself. I try and shut my eyes and think of something REALLY off putting - i'll give no more details than that. haha.

Also i'd question the porn thing, surely by wan***g all the time you kind of de-sensitize yourself. I'd say if it's been a few weeks this might be a good idea.

Finally, and i'm sure lots will disagree or atleast caution you to get the right balance... Alcohol. But too much will put you to sleep or have you throwing up in her hair. haha. That wont go down well!

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