I'll try that eye contact thing and slow thrusts. If I fuck her too hard like Manuel, she usually complains afterwards that she cannot sit down and that it hurts to pee for her. She always says, "gently, gently" ,but I think that's bullshit because I tried it gently a few times but she didn't cum, however, if I just keep rubbing her hard in the 11 o'clock direction, she comes after a while. I also use a list of dirty phrases from reddit
http://www.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/d4 ... to_a_girl/
I've read David Shade's Manual and he had some nice tips for making girls orgasm. Also, I really good book I found is She Comes First by Ian Kerner. That teaches you how to give oral properly.
In David Shade's Manual he wrote about Tantra and Sexual Conditioning. I tried that for a while but it was too much work so I gave up. Though I can remember one technique which is similar to what J19891 describes.
First, I insert my dick a little bit and repeat 10 times, then I insert it 9 times and 1 all the way in, then 8 times little bit and 2 time all the way in... until I just fuck her all the way in rhythmically.
I can feel that this is driving her crazy and sometimes she even starts grinding on my cock, while I'm fucking her. But the problem is that the moment she enjoys it too much and gets closer to orgasm, the more she moves around and the more stimulation my dick gets. Therefore, I must stop fucking her otherwise I cum inside her! However, when I stop fucking her, and stop giving the stimulation, she calms down as well and gets farther away from orgasm. After a few silent seconds, I'm ready to resume pounding, but then I need to build up her orgasm again and the cycle repeats. I simply can't last long enough so that she can come on my dick. This happens even if I masturbate beforehand. I try thinking about neutral things like animals, lions or my grandma but it doesn't work. :/