apparently i come across as needy everytime i try escalating because i am always the one pushing forward...i thought that was a good thing but i guess i did it wrong.
ive only been able to get to second base
she says "we will escalate when i say we will escalate" i know thats horrible!!
how can i regain control?
(btw in everything else besides sex, shes not bossy like that - im always the one making the decisions...)

ya its important to notice when girls become uncomfortable with escalation, if i were you id slow down the escalation, just build more comfort and maintain high value maybe introduce more steps in your escalation so she accepts it more

like what?

Wow, that is horrible - sounds like you have a bossy one! But it is also quite obvious to me that she is not 100% comfortable with you. You need to make sure she is comfortable and I believe you should slow down the escalation a bit and feel her vibes regarding her level of comfort. Do not try and force anything, because you won't get anywhere.

The way my ex got me was by slowly escalating kino and therefore building sexual tension. He kept me at arm's length and then just when I couldn't take it anymore, he made his move. We had a four year relationship following that.

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