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Except i`m really curious what true love is. They say with true love you don`t cheat on another... well guess i dident feel true love, its either that or we`re just made erronus.
P.S: Quote from House M.D
"The best of marriages are built up on lies" you agree, yes or no?
I don't believe that monogamy is necessary for true love. This depends on the individuals. If you love a person, you don't want to hurt them. It can mean not cheating. A friend of mine, who is cheating on his g/f after suddenly meeting the "perfect" woman and hooking up in an intoxicated state, said: my grandmother said: my husband never cheated on me - and if he did, he was gentleman enough not to let me know. So he's decided, that lying is the right thing, if he wants the relationship to work again, after the affair is over - because he doesn't want to hurt his g/f and is convinced this is best for both of them.
Many, me included, have experienced, that if you are deeply in love, you're not even being attracted to others, because you are so focused on your partner. Ans many confuse this with true love.
However look at how many people cheat - did they all not try enough? Or did they not have the right partner? I think some poeple just weren't made for monogamy. And also many confuse true love with oneitis, which is an addiction and immature.
Berthold Brecht (a german writer and poet) said: If you love someone, you form a picture of them in your mind- and then you constantly try to form that person to fit that picture.
Sadly this is often true. We want the person to be how we saw them as we fell in love overwhelmingly and wonder why the relationship isn't working.
Nobody is perfect and will be the right partner for all aspects of life, there is no perfect relationship. So the important thing is to accept the imperfections.
And you can take this even further and say: I love you, but there are so many wonderful individuals out there who are great too. As friends - or maybe also as lovers or for a relationship. Open Relationships/multiple relationships are nothing wrong, as long as you are taking care of the emotional needs of the ones you love and overcoming jealousy showing: because I love this person too, doesn't mean I love you less or that I'm unsatisfied with the relationship.
True love is about understanding and accepting a person as he/she is and in my opinion being open to each other/sharing things (the opposite of building on lies!)
The core thing about a mature relationship is mutual support without it being immature codependance/addiction. The needs and the aspirations of one person become the needs and aspirations of both and at the same time you remain two independant people with their own individual needs. You care about what the other person cares about and you live your lives together finding compromises but yet to don't need to change your ways for the other person. may sound boring and contradictory, but this idea is described well "The art of loving" by Erich Fromm, even though he has a slightly religious and conservative approach.