| Well, it's like this: I don't want an exclusive relationship. At the moment, and I can't say I'll think the same way in 10 years, but right now, I don't ever want to be married again. Exclusive relationships lead to marriage and co-dependence. I've got logical reasons for saying this but I won't bore you with them here. Though closely related, it's an entirely different subject.
I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life either. I WANT female attention.
My options are to either set a goal of as many ONS's as I can get, which NEVER happens to me and I really don't enjoy them anyway OR I can set up several girlfriends at once. To protect myself, the only way I know to do that, is to continue sarging for new women. If I don't continually sarge for new girlfriends, I'll get "comfortable" with not approaching women. Once I get into that comfort zone, it's a real bitch to force myself out of my comfort zones. And when you're in that comfort zone, it's a lot easier to make the mistake of committing to a woman.
That said, if I've got 2 girlfriends and I find a new one out sarging who's more interesting and more attractive than a current girlfriend, I've got to cut the old one lose to make room for the new. It's gonna break her heart, even if shs's not that emotionally connected to me. Rejection hurts your feelings. No getting around it. I'd rather it be them than me. That's for sure.
That said, LOGICALLY, there is no getting around "heart break" anyway. The only way to avoid this is if BOTH parties find a special someone else to occupy their attention at exactly the same time. Otherwise, someone's getting their heart broken OR the couple is getting married.
What I'm trying to say is, even though, right now, I WANT to get even with women, it wouldn't matter anyway, given my action plan.
The only way to avoid breaking a woman's heart is to commit to them exclusively and hope like hell that she doesn't break yours. For most PUA's, I'd guess they're breaking women's hearts all the time. What's the difference if I enjoy it or not? Heck, I've got one girlfriend who's not that attractive right now, and already, I can see I DON'T really want to break her heart. But I'm way too good for this girl, I think, and the long term plan is to eventually break her heart. Honestly, I don't think I'll get an ounce of enjoyment out of it.
But man what I wouldn't give to break the heart of some chick who's rejected me, even if it was just a back turn in the middle of conversation in a bar as I was hitting on her. I'd KILL to get even with these women. I NEED to sort things out in my mind. The woman I care about that I'll eventually have to dump IS a woman and I KNOW she's acted that way to other men. I just got lucky to somehow get past her ASD shields and she realizes that I'm too good for her and that's why she hasn't moved on to someone better and broken my heart.
I hate women, but I love women. Maybe I am losing my mind. _________________ Later,
Alphagame
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