I'm a lucky guy as I'm blessed with fantastic looks. I'm told on a weekly basis that I look like Leonardo Dicaprio, and have been mistaken for him (two girls asked me for an autograph once- if only I'd had some PUA skills then!). When I was a bit fatter people thought I looked like Chandler from friends. I've also been told I look like David Beckham. Yes, this sounds unbelieveable but I assure you it's true. Looks aside, I'm a very sensitive guy who thinks alot about stuff. Having come from a interesting background (I'm half English half and Scandinavian) I find it hard to totally integrate with just British groups of friends. I'm more at ease with people who have varied backgrounds from different countries, or whove moved around alot. I've never been good at sport, like football etc (apart from snowboarding), and I've always been a huge dreamer. I've got a healthy sex drive like all men should have, and I'm very musical and creative.

My big reason for being interested in the PUA scene is to learn more about what's possible to achieve with women. I was in a 4.5 yr relationship with a special girl since the age of 21, moved in together at 22. To be honest, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I lost weight, got really happy, learned new things. I felt she provided an entirely new opportunity for growth and self-development. However, she wasn't really into music like I was, and didn't really have a creative side like I did. We based a lot of our lives around eachother and I finally got frustrated. Looking at porn, dreaming of being a cool single guy again. Eventually plucked up the courage and dumped her (ouch- it was NOT easy). We had to carry on living together for a while (about 6 weeks to be exact), whilst we looked for new places to live. She found somewhere pretty quick (she was always the organised one), and I took longer to find somewhere and had to move back to my parents for a month.

As soon as we'd split up, however, I achieved a massive high state of being. I immediately bought new clothes, looked the shit, wanted to party whenever possible, led all conversations and social groups. I could walk into a bar and have so much energy that all the girls would stop and look. I went to a club in Edinburgh on my own one night. I was working up there and had seen posters for Groove Armarda. I was looking cool and had a couple of drinks, sitting watching people. The music got good and I decided to have a dance. Suddenly out of knowhere a hot chick came up to me and started dancing with me like I was a pole in a strip club. So seductive was the dance that some girls that were dancing around us had a look of surprise on their face. This girl suddenly dropped to her knees and started to bite my erect penis through my jeans. Enough was enough I almost had to push her away fearing humiliation on the dance floor. Seriously, it was too much! I was actually put off in the end, but left amazed at what had happened.

Another example was at a party that a friend had arranged, around Christmas. I went alone, dressed in a suit (it was a black tie event). I was hoping to score that night but there were too many people I knew and friends of friends. One girl was very much up for it, but I didn't find her attractive and decided a strategic "no". When the party ended, I hung around for a taxi, half-hoping to meet some girl and go back toghether. This seems to happen surprisingly often. As everyone left, I got chatting to a blonde girl with huge breasts. After a 5 minute conversation I asked her where she was heading. She said home. I was staying at my cousins large flat at the time. I pure and simple said "would you like to stay at mine? I could do with the company". She said yes and jumped right in a taxi with me. I fucked her from behind the next morning. She loved it! Drove her home afterwards as she had to go to work and lived quite far. She texted me after begging for more.

After this "high" episode, things went downhill, bigtime. I went from being confident, happy and at ease with women, to being totally down and depressed. I obviously had to move on with life, find a new place to live and needed to make a "fresh start" with life. I met a cool guy who was new to the city on an accomodation finding web site, and we proceeded to look for a two bedroom flat together. This would be my chance at a fresh start in life and the chance to be a bachelor again and also make new friends. However, we didn't manage to find any suitable place for a suitable price and I ended up getting cold feet over the whole thing. I was worried that I might regret moving in with someone I didn't know that well and pressures from work were also prevelant during that time.

Meeting a friend of mine for a coffee, she said she knew someone who had a room going in a shared house. I went to meet the people and see the room, it was a nice room and at a good price. The people were a bit older than me and more established but they liked to party apparantly and seemed nice so I took it. However, I found it very hard to make friends with them and I got more and more anxious about the fact that I had missed a huge opporunity to live up my life while I could. I started to see my ex again as I was feeling so down, and she was the only person that provided soothing. My anxiety was sky-high for months, because I felt that I hadn't totally moved on and I was "in the middle".

Reading PUA information has made me very frustrated with myself for not moving on, but I've recently decided that I need to "accept" what's happened so far, accept myself and my qualities, and not stress about the fact that I might be missing opportunities to fuck women. Fucking is fantastic, but I'm very dissolutioned with the PUA targets and with my own life. By joining this forum I hope that I can at least meet some people and have some interesting interactions.

I'm still confused about what to do with the ex, but I don't have the courage to ditch her and our mutual friends, and "change" into a new PUA type personality.

Looking forward to chatting to you all.

overPlay

Hi overPlay, and welcome

I've found in the past that after I've just split with a girl, I have (if I did the dumping anyway) a period of eurphoria were I'm cool, confident and magnetic and talking to/pulling girls just seems effortless and natural. The longer I stay single though, the more doubts creep in, the self-esteem starts to flag and self-doubt sets in. We shouldn't need the girls to feel validated but it's easier said than done of course.. I think the key is tapping into that mindset of how you were after you just split. Remember how you felt, where you felt it, and what it was that made you feel good about yourself.

Well that's my 2 pence anyhow

Cheers
SC

Hey SC, thanks for the reply. I'm glad to hear someone else has experienced the "Euphoria"- a good word to describe it. I think relationships can make us feel trapped, so when we get out we're like a kid in sweet shop!

If we oversee the fact that, rather than leonardo di caprio, people says y look like " a deamon" ( thanks ) or... "A philosophy profesor"... ( What do girls have in their minds? ) Well... apart from that, I've had a similar situation.

I left my gf, feeling hunted by that relationship. I was an RAFC, as I am now. But I got that Euphoria too. Damn, it felt nice. I would open girl while commuting, in the bus... I was 19, looked like shit, and were far too much serious and interested in.... Molecular Genertics?... Not a good topic to start a convo hum? . So... I mostly sucked. Anyway, I managed to know a good bunch of girls, and score some.

From 5s to a 10 btw...

I hope you can use PUA tactics to ( find a / recover your ) Special Lady.

Good luck.

Tzarkov

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Whatever they say, it is right.

welcome overplay.
I too am blessed with my genetics. I find that sets blow open for me (maybe I just look unthreatening) but I don't know how to continue after an opener. I don't know if that troubles you too.

The goal is happiness, not glory.

I've never been a good actor. If I can't continue after an opener it's usually because I don't have anything fun/cool/interesting or I haven't been challenging myself/keeping myself occupied with interesting things lately.

If I've been working my ass off with colleagues at work on a large project, or I have just come back from a tough work trip, or I have been through an interesting journey, then it's natural as I have so much energy to burn off. It's as if I "deserve" to get the girl.

I get the feeling that many people training at PUA get initial success partly because of the buzz and sense of achievement, the embarkment on a new and exciting project, encouraged by peers in a community/lair. But in the end a "dip" will ensue. Getting through this "dip" is probably what sets the best from the rest.

Recommended reading "The Dip" by Seth Godin

chief hit th nail on the head.
why are you wnating the PUA lifestlye, and only you can answer that question.
me i want to make the best of myself.
i would like the mindset
and the skills to have the girl i want.
the girl i want will more than likely not be a ten
but an interesting funny girl who challenges me and loves the effort i make to be the strongest person i can be.
when i have her the game is keeping her an keepng that spark there.

im in this for long term, just im going through a fair few ladies to find that person.
when i look back and think hey wasnt it fun fucking all those girls they'd be a big part of me wishing i just had one person who i could spend more valuable time with keeping that feelign goign.

oh and guys i felt the trappedness and i felt the euphoria of breaking free... now i know that the feeling of trapped shouldnt be there in a relationship so i wil test how far a ladie has her claws in and if i dnt like it i make tracks. its that simple give me my freedom, if you'v made me want to be there then through choice i will see you and reward you, if you'v done nothing to keep me then i wont.

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Nice reply Enigma. The truth is, since I was 21 until now (I'm 26) I've been with a girl who is still my best friend even now we've officially split up. I was going to have a fresh start and move in with a new guy, and take things from there. Have some fun, explore life, meet new people and be judged with no history. My ex seems to love me unconditionally, wanting to be there for me right now, but I can't tell her that what's causing my unhappiness is the decision of whether to move on or not. I love her but in order to find out if I truly love her I must go on a journey alone first. I am subconciously rejecting this current existence, which is half single, half not. I still see her a bit, as we are the closest thing we have, even though we're living sepeperately now. It's almost like I need to experience something other than her to make me realise what I had. Right now, I can't look her in the face and say "I love you", because I haven't followed through with my plan. If I get back with her now, I'll live the rest of my life regretting I didnt take the chance to be free properly.

This might sound stupid to some people, but when you suddenly wake up to the fact that you can have so much power to be so many things, and that you are still so young, yet you are comfortable with a close partner, you freak out bigtime, like me!

i loved that overplay,
seems so fitting with my thoughts.
iv been single enough now to know what i want
an when i found out what i want it was my ex, i been single 3years,
2years of practicing game fucked 10-11ppl, you know moved on, and then i bumped into her one day we were speaking but there s a strong connection there.
again were closer than i feel we ever were through talking an effort we make.

im going to university as far from mine an her hometown as possible to see if she really is that special or if its only because im in a small pond of where im living. part of me hope its the latter becuase then it will motivate me to venture to other ponds all over the world. where as i know me an her will be in contact with each other for life, its sorta role reversal in my situation im there for her 100%. i jus help out as a PUA not and AFC.

overplay get out IMO experience as much as you can,
1 - its fun
2 - when u do settle down you'l have alot of interesting stories to tell

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Well, I finally did it. The anxiety was overwhelming. She noticed something was up, and emailed me from her work to mine saying that she was confused, as I didn't seem keen on hanging with her recently. She then called me and we chatted. I didn't know what else to say except the truth. I let her down gently, and she said that this was it. She's now gone "forever". I'm now free, but back to harsh reality, back to square one. Time to start making new friends and a new life. The only thing I massively regret now is not ending it face to face. She would have seen the pain in my eyes, and I would have seen her face one last time. I'm lying here wishing I did it face to face. It's going to take a while before I get over this.

Time for a new episode.

if she called u and asked you then there is no point postponing it.

trust me you will see her again at some point.
she will still see you wished do it differently.
and you will see she still respects you for not lying an stringing it on anymore.

enjoy your new freedom and finding yourself and the answers 2your questions.

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