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So you took a hostest job just to meet the few women that are going to be coming in and out over using that free time to go to places with hundreds of more options of women you could approach? Perhaps you can break down the logic there for me...
Second.. buying drinks isn't going to determine whether you get laid or you don't. It's the attitude of the guy that "doesn't buy drinks" that gets him laid, not the physical gesture of buying drinks. You can have that same attitude, still buy drinks, and still get laid.
At this moment you're positing yourself as the "work boyfriend". Just someone she sees and flirts with from time to time because you two work together. And you've resorted to playing petty highschool "withdrawn attention" games instead of taking the bull by the horns and going after what you want. The right guy is going to show up to the spot, grab her number, invite her out, a fuck her if you don't get it together. Kissing is all that happened because kissing is all you had the self confidence and certainty to go after. If you have the overwelhming confidence, to lead, direct, and go for more, more would have happened.
If I were you, I would drop the girl, and the job unless you need the money and spend that time racking up on my approach expirience. "The game" is outdated. There are far more quality literary sources on the topic you could learn from. I'd personally put my book against anyones. But there's many others as well.
Well, really I took the job because I wanted to get my foot in the door in the foodservice industry...working towards bartending and see if I wanted to get into the Bar business...as a business of my own...and then I was really excited about the opportunities that working in a bar/restaurant would present. This was before I had my PUA epiphany/aspiration...
I do see where you're going with the "work boyfriend" positioning...and I've also already talked to my boss about cutting my hours back, because I do realize now that I can do better with pickup outside of work...I don't see myself wanting to own a bar anymore. Will probably quit that gig soon enough. To make more time for me to hone my pick up skills. I'm more excited about this than I have been about anything in a while.
As far as the "kissing being the only thing that happened" bit...I do think I should have gone for more. We were running late for our shift at work, so I didn't think it would be logistically possible/realistically possible for me to fuck her at the time...I should have gone for it anyway and seen what happened. Like you said...more confidence. I figured with the kiss close, I'd for sure get the opportunity to take it to that next level being that we see each other a few days/week. Her schedule is crazy...as is mine (working 70-80 hours/week), and I just haven't been able to escalate it the way I had expected I would with the groundwork I had laid. You live, you learn.
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I think you need to continue your educaiton in closing first. Just as you used your 'body positioning trick' to affect her, you have to use other 'tricks' in order to 'close.' It gets much better when you pratice it in real life - As others pointed out, the main failure here is escalation. If I were a gay man, I'd have no idea you were actually interesting in getting inside me.
When I am with a woman that I am attracted to, I make it extremely clear that I am by engaging sexually in every way possible - lips, hair, body, boobs, legs, conversation.
Do you see where you're lacking? You need to get her into a comfortable locaiton where you can convey your interest otherwise someone else will beat you to it!
I think I could definitely take the kino to the next level for sure...getting there little by little. Any literature that you recommend relative to kino?
...truth be told I did a little Tinder chubby chasing for practice last night haha...and ALMOST got the fuck close, but she was on her period and didn't want to (at least supposedly)...but I did get her to my place, make out with her...and pull her pants down and bit her ass haha...As she left, she asked to hang out this weekend...I told her "maybe". I had forgotten I am going to be out of town for the weekend, but even if I was in town I don't know if I'd call her. I know I can do better, and she seems a little crazy.
Do you feel like practicing with chubbies and 5s or 6s is a good thing or bad? At least early in this game...
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