Hey guys... need some help here.

Been seeing this girl who has a "boyfriend"... how ever he lives in a different state and I really dont care what her relationships is with him. Here is how our relationship has progressed:

1st hangout - casual with mutual friends, exchanged numbers, small escalation, no kissing.

2nd hangout - light hand holding, small make-out back at my place... no sex.

3rd hangout - hand holding, heavy makeout, fingering and dry humping, no sex...

4th hangout - hand holding, heavy makeout, oral sex, just the tip... but she will not let me fuck her

(***She was the one escalating the making out and hooking up on the 3rd and 4th hangouts - straddled me and started making out with me as we were just watching TV... then the clothes started coming off)

which leads me to now...

We had planned to hangout and she flaked me...I called her the night after 4th hangout...

here are the texts below:

Me - Call - Her - No answer but text below...
Her-
Sorry bad day. I Don't want to talk right now.
Me- No response.

Her the next day regarding our hangout-

Hey! So I just got done were doing implant on receptionist and then lunch and meeting. Today's probably not going to work.
Me-
No worries... if you wanna drop by from 4 to 7 pm I could squeeze you in.. but im busy tonight as well.
Whats your schedule like the rest of this week?
Her - No response.

Its been about a week now since this and she has not texted me and I have not texted her... how do I proceed or is this one done?

If its not done what should i text and when?

Thanks again!
Duke

Sounds like it very well could be done, but each situation is unique. I learned this trick a while back, and it seems pretty helpful. Just text her this and see what happens. "...?".

Buyers remorse.

Sex for women is highly psychological. She will find ways to dismiss how much of a big deal a kiss is, but you can't really do that with a blowjob or actual sex. Cheating becomes real at that point.

You basically tiptoed the line without crossing it. So now she knows exactly what will happen if she comes over and she can't pin it on "the heat of the moment". It's a conscious and informed decision now.

I can't tell you how many times I had girls tell me "Well what's done is done. So if I'm gonna have sex outside the relationship at least it's with one person multiple times rather then multiple people one time".
I mean I guess it makes sense, but that's not an excuse she can tell herself if you don't actually go through with it.

I'd suggest you let her cool off for a while.

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Thanks for the post RC and yes I am definitely letting her "cool off" and playing it cool myself.

We def. have crossed the point of no return and she knows if she does come back over things would probably escalate again (and it wouldnt even be me escalating! She was the one the last 2 times lol)

How long do i let this "cool off" for? Its already been a week... do I just let it go and see if she ever re-engages?

Thanks again - Duke

You didn't really cross the line. That was my point. You just hit it and then stopped.

Try this weekend. Although I wouldn't get me hopes up.

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How do you suggest I proceed... Like I feel she should reach out to me but she can't really do that either without feeling slutty.

Text her: "Breakfast in bed this weekend?"

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I feel like that would activate her slut defense... I feel like we honestly just need to talk it out... But how do I go about actually re engaging her without her freaking out. Should I just text what are u doing tomorrow?

I feel this would activate her needy puss defense. But hey I guess you know women really well huh? Go with what you know.

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I see your point... but how does "breakfast in bed?" get to back in my court at this point? She obv isnt texting me for a reason... and as RC said it is prob Buyers remorse. How do I flip her back around is my question. This is a little more sensitive...

Thanks guys again for the advice!

The guys are telling you to go for a hail mary at this point. Because it's not looking good at all.

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Talking it out is literally the worst option available for you.

Like I said in previous posts, if you want things like this to work out in your favor you have to seal the deal when the opportunity arises. You didn't. You gave her just enough to make it real but not enough to break a barrier. So now she'll protect the barrier.

Text her to meet up this weekend. Do whatever is characteristic of you two. But just in case it's still not clear, there's nothing you can do at this point to flip the script. The time for doing was when you had her in your bed.

The only way this works in your favor is if she has some sort of fallout with her bf and just decides 'fuck it'.

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Any specific suggestions in going for the hail mary? Like a shock text or phone call?

I gave you a free one.

Here is another. "I'd love to slam you against the wall and....."

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There's no way to tip toe around it OP.

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