Hi guys,

Been struggling with my relationship for months now and finally made the decision i need to breakup with my girlfriend who i was with for 4,5 years.

I still love her and don't want to hurt her more than i need to so i am seeking for some breakup advice from the fellow pua's.

My number 1 reason why i want to breakup is because i find myself still being very attracted to other girls/going out and living an active lifestyle instead of the settled down life.

This girl was the relaxed type who doesn't drink alcohol, likes to be social with family and rather be with the 2 of us instead of going out with friends. i am nog really like that but i got used to the drama free relationship untill recently i want more out of a relationship.

Will see her wednesday and promised myself to breakup then, i truly respect all people who broke up face to face with their loved ones cause i truly could not get the words out today but i know it must be done

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

Never mind shit already hit the fan

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

just be honest

Be honest, you two simply don't match. Don't linger too much, you don't want to give her any false hopes after a break up

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Uncertainty is the root of all progress and all growth.

I was honest about everything and ended things but this girl is very insecure and really starts to emotionaly break me down by saying things like give it another chance, i really love you, cant live without you, hope i dont wake up anymore..... She knows i lost my best friend by suacide so to say stuff like that really got me upset, after i told her she apoligized for that.

Now we are going to let things cool and meet wednesday to talk things through again but i made up my mind and want to become single, any tips because we keep going in circles of why i want this etc and drags me down with highly emotional words which make it very hard for me.

I don't want to give false hope but i also dont want her to be so sad as i am really all she got, no friends, weak parents.... I already offered to remain friends but honestly all she cares about is us staying together.

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

Stop answering your phone, stay off social media for a month or two, in fact shut that shit off so nobody can comment or post either.

Stick to your guns, it's your life not hers.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Not sure if this girl will come out alive if i shut her off and quite harsh man, if she cheated on me or broke up with me yes this is the way to go but i still love this girl and want to do as little harm as possible.

Thanks for the advice though, other people can benefit from it.

Why does love have to hurt so much

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

I learn rather quickly on how to handle situations. Experience is the best medicine and you really learn what kind of man you are when you are in them. Just break up. If she wants to sink into depression let her sink, I'm sure she will find a new dick to ride on soon or her best girlfriends will be there with an ice cream and movie in hand. You don't give girls the credit they are due. Girls are drama veterans. They are very good at dishing it and handling it. For your own sanity you should leave and never contact her for a whole month. You will move on. Immerse yourself in other things that catch your interest. I love reading, I love working out, I like helping out around here on the forums. I like reading dating material and I find myself spending hours without realizing I just missed a text from some girl. It's truly liberating

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And the fact that a girL does harm to herself because she went through a breakup is ridiculous. Anyone on the outside will understand if you just say "I'm not feeling like we are the best match long term, it's better that we parted ways".


I'd love to see anyone argue with that.

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Thanks dor your input, like i said she does not have any girlfriends who can give her an icecream. All she got is me, i was her hobby, her best friend, her everything... Only her weak parents who she take care for are there for her.

its dangerous how much she is invested in me, for your moving on tips i got myself covered as i run 2 business which keep my mind of things throughout the day/evening but right now moving on is way to hard as i want to make sure she is ok, i was her first and we literally did everything together, i feel like i have backstabbed my best friend out of the blue, no warning sign, randomly spitting out mu feelings which makes the shock so intense.

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

Then why exactly do you want to break up then? Because stringing her along will do greater damage, and is a huge waste of that section of both your lives. If you love her as you say, then wouldn't it be better to let her start the healing process sooner rather than later?

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

I want to breakup because i recently turned 25 and i feel this urge to explore, so since i was 21 ive been with this girl who is only my second girlfriend, if you look up my file here on the forum you can see my first girlfriend had borderline and truly mindfucked me so dating this relaxed,chilled girl who i had a drama free relationship with was a huge blessing for me. Our relationship was good, sex was good, she let me do my thing, she was caring, everything you look for in a long term girlfriend....

BUT as i go out every weekend and see so many fun opportunity's fly by it makes me wonder what it would be like to be single again, i know i will love it but as the saying goes, the green always looks greener at the other side. For last few months i have had so much stress and doubt about breaking up because why would i want to break up if my relationship is so perfect..... reason is i want to be free and fuck around for at least another 5 years until i settle down and get into the average joe life. Settling down with this girl when i am about 30 sounds good to me but now i want to fly and play.....

You see my problem? I love this girl but my head is saying breakup and do your thing that you "think" is amazing.

If i don't breakup i am afraid i will regret it when i am older,,, rather have a oops then a what if you know?

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

Yeah, I see it. Your to afraid let go of the last branch in your life, before swing to the next. You won't make any progress till you let her go. Your crippling her.

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

How about attempting an open relationship... This way i can explore the wild and see what its like, she can do also.... and if we were meant to be eventually we will become exclusive again right?

Does this seem to be the answer? Another thing i came up with was a break to also give me the freedom to explore the wild.

But i already know my current girlfriend won't like the break/open relationship so if you got any other ideas for me that would be great.

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.

These post are so common its amazing.

Just stand by whatever decision you make. Don't go backtracking.

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