okay so I get a number close to instant date from a hb 7.5 off of a myspace sarge, I tell her to meet me at the mall in like an hour after I talk to her. as I am driving there, she calls me and tells me she is going to be late, I tell her whatever i have to fix some minute thing on my car real quick, so i am not waiting on her and i am not effected by her being late, i tell her to meet me out in the parking lot. Anyway like 30 minutes later shes not there so i decide to walk around the outdoor part of the mall, and i see her and her friend waiting for a movie, so i call her and tell her to meet me by my car which is like a minute away from where she was, i waited like five more minutes and she never came, so I left. the next day she sends me a mesage saying she could'nt find me, called me like four times and it went straight to voice mail, which i am pretty sure is bullshit, but who knows. anyway, wtf is there something there, i know she needs to be punished what should i say, should i totally call her out?

Wow man, good job on the # close and instant date close online. I can understand your frustration, but I wouldn't call her out. Be the bigger person and all that stuff! Calling her out is going to end it, she'll get hostile if she's put on the spot by some guy she doesn't hardly know. My thought would be to freeze her out for a bit. Then invite her out again, if she flakes again then ditch her. Give it one more chance just in case!

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If I were you I'd remain completely unaffected and say "I'll wait to see how you make it up to me before I pass judgement." This is old school from like 2004 but it still works great.

For your future MySpace sarges and in general, I highly recommend seeding in the qualification/comfort stage that you don't tolerate flaky people. I always squeeze in a dhv story about someone I knew who was a flake and end it with, "you aren't flakey right?" I think this came from mystery, not sure.

I also never show up to the meeting place before her...I wait for her to text me "I'm here, where are you?" before I show up. If she doesn't text me then I don't show up.

And lastly, I never go out of my way to meet up with her. I always tell her I'm out running errands or shopping for this or that and if she wants to she can meet up with me. This way she can't flake on me because I'm already out doing shit anyway.

-V

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Thanks J smooth, Vapor, I pretty much did exactly what you guys said to do, I told her that she could make it up to me next time, and then i didn't talk to her for a few days, then I called her back to show that i might still be interested. then a few days later I picked her up from work at night and took her back to Myplace. I put on a movie an just negged her, messed with her earings and did some eye contact stuff, then i went into my room and put on some funny videos on youtube and had her sit on my lap, when we got up i asked her if she would like to kiss me and she said sure-- we ended up making out for a while and i kept trying to make a move to the f-close but she wouldn't let me undo her pants so we just kept making out, i was gonna do a freeze out, but then she asked me to take her home because she needed to get up for work ( it was kinda late) and I did. how can I move from there to the f-close? she is a very shy girl.

Yeah, you gotta do hard freeze outs if you want to close her that quickly. It also helps if you do a lot of push/pull during physical escalation...tease her and make her want more. If you do this right it will get her really riled up and she won't put up much LMR.

You everything else really well though...major props!

-V

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