Every time a married woman or woman with a boyfriend shows obvious signs of sexual interest in me, she will have no trouble at all giving me her PRIVATE contact info, yet a couple days later they ALWAYS have what I like to call an LMR guilt trip melt down.

I emailed this woman proposing a day, time and place to meet with me and this is the bullshit reply I just got:

I'm sorry . I couldn't lies to my husband .
So I can't meet you in tomorrow.
I'm so sorry.

I went through a phase of hooking up with girls with bfs all the time. It was like some sort of fetish for me. As a result, I am VERY familiar with all of the emotional dynamics involving guilt and all that stuff.

I see one glaringly obvious problem with your process: It looks like you're being too direct too early. You need to give them more "plausible deniability" by being more indirect. You need to give them enough space to believe that they could just be meeting you for a drink as a "friend" or something just as innocent.


For what reason other than sex would you want to meet her?
Why would a girl with a boyfriend (or husband) go to a club guilt-free?
We men all know that clubs are places where you go to find partners for sex.
Women, however, tell themselves that they like to go to the club "just to dance and have fun with girlfriends."

ASD works in interesting ways when it comes to the mental gymnastics involved.
The impression you're giving is that, if these women come to meet you, it would definitely just be for sex.
That leaves more room for this so-called "LMR guilt trip melt down" to happen because you're basically giving them too much room to think about the potential future sex. You want to keep them in the present moment as much as possible, as is the key with all aspects of seduction.

I've never gotten the "I'm sorry I can't meet you because I couldn't lie to my bf/husband" because they never had to lie in the first place. The bfs knew their gfs were meeting me (just a friend) for a drink just to innocently hang out.

Careful, though. Karma can be a bitch.

Every time a married woman or woman with a boyfriend shows obvious signs of sexual interest in me, she will have no trouble at all giving me her PRIVATE contact info, yet a couple days later they ALWAYS have what I like to call an LMR guilt trip melt down.

I emailed this woman proposing a day, time and place to meet with me and this is the bullshit reply I just got:

I'm sorry . I couldn't lies to my husband .
So I can't meet you in tomorrow.
I'm so sorry.

Excuse the bad English...she is Japanese because I'm living in Japan now.

Anyway, this shit happens all the time and it pisses me off so much. It happened in the US and now it is happening here. It is like a curse that follows me wherever I go.

I actually want to just rudely tell her off, but that is a really beta thing to do. I really need some serious advice with how to keep women from pulling this shit on me?