Ok I am here today to update and elaborate on my goals, but before I do that I feel like it is quite appropriate to take a look back at the goals I first posted on here almost 2 years ago.

"This brings me to what I want to get out of leaning pick up, what my goals are, what I hope to achieve from this process. First long term goals.

1.) Finally become confident, happy, and truly love myself and life. This is the main one, if I achieve this goal all the others should fall into place. I really believe that there is something fundamental tied up in this, somehow my inability to express myself with women I am attracted to sexually is related to everything else I struggle with in my life. It might sound crazy but I know it's true.
2.) Find the girl that I want, that I chose, and start a great relationship.
3.) Secure my future financially.
4.) Start a family.
5.) Live a great life.

Now short term

1.) Be able to confidently approach any woman I want whenever I feel like it.
2.) Get better at making connections with not just the women that I am interested in but others as well.
3.) Get a new better paying job before March.
4.) Get back to a healthy lifestyle, less drinking, quit smoking."

OK lets see long term ones:

1.) Well I was totally heartbroken still when I first came here and I feel 1000x better that I did then, so really this isn't even something I'd even list as a goal anymore which I think shows I've come a long way on this one-nuff said
2.)not yet
3.)not yet but I have made great progress here
4.)not yet
5.)I've come to realize my life is already great but there arr always new and awesome experiences I can strive for.

Short term:

1.)Gotten a ton better but still needs work
2.)same
3.) achieved
4.) achieved

Back to my new post for this year:

1.) Start my own business within 2 years

2.) Find the girl I am excited to be with and make it work. Also within 2 years

3.) Focus on my music and write and record at least 3 songs within 9 months.

I like my new goals better, really 1,2, and 4 of the original goals are the same as #2 and 3 and 5 of the original will be taken care of by my new #1, plus I tried to make my new ones SMART goals so they give me a much more clear picture of what I am trying to do and when. As far as them being realistic and measurable and the other "SMART" criteria-more on that later.

Also my new goals include music and I think that's really important for me.

I took some time and broke down the action items for each goal. I'll do one tonight and I'll try to do two tomorrow.

Goal #1 Start my own business within 2 years:

Actions: 1.) save seed money 2.) pick a business idea 3.) make a business plan 4.) find a partner or investor
5.) market research, technical research, etc

Time frame for action items: 1.) now-24 months 2.) asap 3.) within 6 months 4.) within 12-18 months 5.) 12-24 months

Next step for this goal is to break each of these actions down into smaller tasks, and then set specific dates for the action items rather than just time frames and then set specific dates for the smaller tasks. I'll plan to have that done for all three goals by next week.

Tomorrow I'll post all the action items for the next 2 goals.

Good afternoon forum, time for the action items breakdown for my 2nd and 3rd goals.

#2 - Find the girl I am excited to be with.

Action items:

1.) work on "PUA skills" 2.) socialize more 3.) master a new skill (boxing, dancing? both?) 4.) once I do find someone I am interested in, work on being a good partner 5.) Always look to get outside comfort zone/face fears (skydiving, join new groups, etc.)

Time frame for action items: 1.) over the next two months 2.) over the next two months 3.) within 2 months 4.) long term as it happens 5.)within 6 months


#3 - Focus on music and record 3 songs within 9 months

Action items:

1.) Practice drums regularly
2.) practice guitar regularly 3.) start playing with other musicians 4.) perform live 5.) start writing music

Time frame for action items:

1.) asap 2.) asap 3.) within 4 months 4.) w/i 4 months 5.) asap

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Alright so looking over my goals and action items I see they need some refinements, so I will work on that in future posts. Obviously I will post more about goal #2 here given the subject matter of the forum, but I do think it is appropriate to keep track of the others here also.

One thing I am going to start doing is keep a note book where I will write down one thing I have done each day to work towards each of my goals. I will do that the old fashioned way I don't think I'll have time to post all those minute details here.

Alright that's it for now later I am going to post a breakdown of each action item into smaller tasks and possibly change and refine some of them.

OK here tonight for an update.

First thing to note is that I am definitely going to have to figure out how to use time more efficiently. Last night left work right at 5:30 after working out and making healthy food and cleaning up it was about 10:30. Basically time to go to bed to make it back to work on time the next day. So if I am going to accomplish all these additional goals I will need more time and unfortunately I will have to sacrifice some of the goals.

Going to go ahead and post what I've done the past two days to work on my goals.

Yesterday

-Workout and weightlifting-this I have to count towards my PUA skills goal although it's not specific to my action items
-practiced a little guitar and drums-basically just messed around jamming I need to start practicing more focused on techniques and learning new skills/songs/etc.


Today

guitar and drums-again just jamming
workout-it was my night off so I spent a few hours cooking and prepping meals


So looking at this it's obvious I'm spending a lot of time after work doing things that are good but they are not specific to my goals. So there's where some things look like they're going to need to be sacrificed.

Also I decided I needed to restructure my action items for my goal to start my own business. Here is the new order of priority:

1.) First research, specifically do research to try to find out what business I'm going to go into 2.) Save seed money 3.) Pick a business 4.) write the business plan 5.) get financing or an investor

Here's a breakdown of the specific tasks of action item #1 for goal #1

Research-a.) research entrepreneurship literature online b.) research small single proprietorship businesses and small franchises c.) watch shark-tank/business television shoes/you tube videos d.) start reading the Economist and or the WSJ

Tonight before bed I am going to read up on small businesses and entrepreneurship. More to come later.

As far as the PUA front it is quiet. I am texting with a few girls I met off Tinder. I've also been interested in this girl I work with for a while now IDK I think she's really just a major distraction but I do want to post some details about her soon, maybe someone will be able to give me feedback to help me decide whether I should consider making a play there.

More to come, goodnight forum!

OK quick update tonight. Didn't practice any music or workout, I actually thought I was going to have to stay late at work, so I planned to have the night off from my workout. I didn't stay that late because my bosses left anyway and I signed up to work late and weekends all month.

I need to do a ton of work on these goals, I do not use my time efficiently. I came on tonight to post earlier and started reading material from the forum and whaddya know- it's hours later.

Trying to go to bed early. Want to get up earlier, get more stuff done.

Anyway I was reading this Sixty Years Challenge stuff, it's not day game but I like it stuff makes sense, kind of reminds me of the gunwitch method which I also liked. Think I will study some of that and that will fulfill one of my action items for my PUA goal.
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Already mentioned I didn't do anything on my music goal tonight, I planned on going to bed earlier, wasted a bunch of time reading but it was good stuff so whatever.

Business goal I am going to do some research after I sign off.

Goodnight forum

Dude that threesome score was awesome. I read you had depression issues in the beginning and I have to say your journey is inspiring. You've come along way. The next time you have AA picture yourself with this threesome and be like I am the fucking man. I'm pretty excited to get the technique down as I'm a pretty good opener but I need major PUA studying and next levels. So far I'm successful getting 5-6's but my goal is to have a steady feeder of HB 10's & 9's. Tall ones only with amazing intellect. I really enjoy talking to them as much as having sex with them. Maybe my mother never loved me, hahahaha.

Nice journal, will keep an eye on it.

Gianni - thanks man, it was pretty awesome! Yeah I like your goals man this stuff really works but it does take effort and balls. Lol I gotta say I like the sex better but an intelligent chick you can really talk to is the best of both worlds.

Dorian - thanks man appreciate the encouragement!


Alright back tonight for an update. I worked late again tonight, til 11pm my time, so didn't do anything tonight.

Last night-I worked out, and I had bought some new guitar strings Sunday so I tried to restring the guitar (an acoustic) last night - totally underestimated what a pain in the ass it would be and spent at least an hour screwing with it and still have to do the 3 highest strings. No idea how I am going to get my hand in the sound hole for the last one. On the business goal I didn't do shit.

Let's see night before that - went running, played some drums. When I practice drums I need to: use a metronome, practice patterns/beats I don't already know, basically be more disciplined. I always just end up jamming out my little 3 or 4 patterns I've gotten down to where I can freestyle within them, and play a fast tempo, which is fun sometimes but I won't ever expand beyond unless I get out of my comfort zone.

This brings me to an important point about my efforts at game, I need to be more disciplined. More disciplined in my approach to everything. Yes I have had much more success with women lately but I still am not confident to approach any woman I want. I still am not attracting consistently women who I am really attracted to.

I need to be more disciplined in my business goal. I want to start my own business, yet where are my serious plans?

And I may need to reevaluate where I am focusing my energies. I went to this event called Peacha Kucha. You can google it it was pretty cool, a Tinder date suggested it actually. Anyway I didn't really like her so whatever I guess I'll break that one down in a separate post. Speaking of focusing energies Tinder is a huge waste of energy-not to mention time-that is not worth the investment. Yes I have gotten laid from it but I know instinctively I would've had more success with better looking women if I spent that time out in the field instead.

So the Peacha Kucha event got me thinking, I really love music more than anything. Like a melody in a song can cause me to get goosebumps or tears in my eyes (when it's not even a sad song). And yeah I want to start my own business because I want to make more money, create something, be independent, etc, but I just don't seem to get as excited as I do when I think about what kind of life I could be able to have making music. But damn can I really do this? I'm 36!

I so regret wasting my earlier years when I didn't have to support myself, so much time to focus on things like music, being creative, or going to school studying science.

But I can't be like that, I have to realize I can still do almost anything I want and everything I need.

So yeah, gotta decide what I want most, and then dig in and be disciplined. Then knock it out of the fucking park.

Back to the point here, what am I going to do to approach game seriously?

First I stated I hate going out at night and prefer daygame. Fine, when am I doing it? I work all day, I get an hour for lunch-but we work in this little isolated pre planned community and there is literally nowhere within driving distance where there are a good number of targets around and I still need time to eat. So I can try to hit on the girls working in the restaurants or in the parking lots. Maybe I could bring my lunch eat at the desk and still have about 45 min in field, but I don't see mysef getting enough touches.

This means besides going out for daygame on weekends (which idk where I'm supposed to fit that in between laundry, cleaning the house, washing my car, my dogs, etc, etc) I am going to have to go out to bars/clubs if I am going to have enough field time. This means I need to teach myself how to go to such places and not drink to excess, for obvious reasons.

Alright so my goals are to go out at least one night this weekend. I am going to use the 60 years challenge techniques and I will report back here.

Goodnight forum talk to y'all again soon

-JB

OK so it was kinda a weird weekend.

So Friday I backslid a bit, some bad old habits I haven't been able to drop. IDK I guess probably similar to a lot of guys who come here I'm sure some people would classify me as a "sex addict"

Anyway I'm not about to start doing 12 steps or trying to go "100 days without jerking off" or whatever. I know for some people those things work, and that's great for them, but I mean come on as long as your not jerking it so much you can't go to work I don't think it's any big deal to masturbate daily. Let's be honest most men and a majority of women do.

However there was a time in my life when I took it too far, too much porn, strip clubs, and then...call girls.

I know, I know.

So yeah I did that Friday. I am not in any way proud and as always it was an unsatisfying experience that is not 1/1000 of the pleasure you get from a real experience with a woman. At the same time I used protection so it was more or less safe and I'm not going to spend even 1 second beating myself up. It's in the past therefore I don't think about it.

Right so I picked myself up and went out Saturday. Felt good, went to my old job, the pub, talking to old friends good vibe going, I'm making sure to be social.

Two girls at the bar, I'm in the back with two friends. We all come out to the bar, sit together I sit on the far left the girls are one seat away to my left. Turn to the left the one closet to me is a solid 7, cute red haired chick. I don't hesitate notice her foot has a small tattoo with a shamrock and the word "lucky".

I open by leaning over and asking saying loudly "excuse me, are you lucky?" They open right up, her friend is ok cute too but 5.5-6 anyway it doesn't matter redhead is my target.

So we talk about various shit, then we do the name exchange. I use the 60 yrs challenge technique and hold the hand until the pull it away. Hold eye contact and try to remember the non verbal stuff idk how much I remember.

Anyway convo dies off, I wait to see if she'll re-initiate. Looks like they paid when they got the drinks.

She does re-initiate.

Her: Well we are supposed to be meeting ppl

Me: I'll need you number (60yrs is genius this is the perfect way to get the number, can't believe I never thought of it)

Her: *giggles, rolls eyes* (I think the directness has made her nervous/excited) Well here's the thing-I don't even live here, I live in (xyz city about 2 hours away)

Me: How long are you here?

Her: Until Monday

Me: So I'll need your number then

Her: Well *giggles*

Me: (Say nothing and keep staring at her with poker face, don't bail her out-60 yrs genius!)

Her: I am planning on moving here...

Me: All the more reason then!

So she gives me her number, I say "let me call you right now so you know who it is when I call". She's like "oh you want to make sure it's not a fake number" haha we laugh. They leave and she goes "hope I talk to you soon". I called her the next day, she didn't answer. Text her 'I want to take you out". She's like I'm with family tonight but I'm coming back soon, want to see you.

So I text her back to hit me up when she's in town-backburner her but I did add her on snapchat tonight she viewed my story-whatever but I do think snap is a great way to have them see you and send a message without looking like you're trying too, as long as you use the snap story and don't send them direct snaps.

Anyway afterwards I was feeling hot so went to the next bar. It's getting late and I'm tired I'll finish the story later but I got another number and was flirting like crazy with a 3rd chick before the night was done. 3rd girl ended up having a BF at the bar so didn't get her number...anyways that's it! More details to follow.

Night forum.

Sounds like a solid interaction

OK so obviously super lazy about posting here.

Quick quick update on the past two weeks. I have been lazy on the PUA practice but I have been doing well at my music goal and working on my business. I am going to work on a prototype of my invention today. I have been practicing drums/guitar every day for at least 30 min.

Every Friday I've been too tired from work and going to bed at 11:30-12 all week and waking up at 6:30. I need 8 hours I feel I am pretty high energy and I burn alot when I am awake. So I just don't feel like going out on Friday exhausted like it's not an efficient use of my time. But IDK maybe it's an excuse, sometimes I guess I just don't feel like being social.

I did go out 2 weeks ago Saturday night. Started at my old job, the pub. A solid 7-8 comes and asks if she can sit next to me which is the only empty seat. I immediately strike up a convo she works at a different bar this crappy ass club actually that blares terrible pop/hip-hop. She mentioned her boyfriend right away, I was going to ask for her number but I saw her sending snapchats so I got her snap ID. She invited me to her job ans says she'll put me on the list, whatever I would never go there. Anyway she leaves.

But it was a good start and my confidence was high. Went to another of my regular spots the bartender gives me her phone unlocked., I take it as an indication and text myself with her phone to get her number. Next day I text her and she's like "I have a BF overseas I didn't give you the phone to get your number" blah blah. She had added me on snapchat hen deletes me. Whatever.

Main problem with this night is after I had a few drinks I got that old itch I always get when out drinking at bars and wanted to get some coke. Which I did...

Fast forward to the next weekend I had plans to go to the casino with my boy on Sat. He wants to get some shit-so we do. The casino is like 1.25 hrs from where we live, we played poker he lost all his money quick so we left. I got home and was all sketchy from the shit didn't even go out ended up staying in and staying up all night watching porn and jerking it. Totally disappointed in myself at least but whatever fuck it I am not going to dwell and beat myself up, I didn't hurt anyone.

Anyway if I am ever going to get anywhere with this PUA stuff I cannot do coke. Yes it does make me more social IDK I just feel like I need that energy but I know it's all in my head. I guess I am the kind of person that also is susceptible to the lure of chemicals...

Anyway today is the Saturday before super bowl. I have no plans for tomorrow but whatever I have to work early Monday anyway. Today I will work on my prototype, practice music, and I will go out tonight and I will not do any chemicals, I am not going to say I won't drink alcohol but no shots and no getting hammered

I wish this was a better report but I have decided to be 100% honest here. Sometimes things get worse before they get better.

I will try to post more often, even if they're short. I have a tendency to get carried away (like I did here). But I think these posts are helpful I can look at my progress and if I am 100% honest I can clearly see my mistakes and success.

Anyway that's it for now except for a complicated BS situation with this girl I work with which I need advice on but I will post in another topic. Until then adios forum~