Hey guys, I just want some feedback on what mistakes I made and how to do better next time.

So I met this HB7 on the bus in July. We kept in touch. She had a BF in another city but we met up for drinks in August anyway, just the two of us. Was fun, I took her to a few places since she's new in town. I did some basic kino like holding her hand when crossing the road and touching her hand and shoulders when talking. She had to meet someone else so she had to go leave after 2 hours.

Anyway we kept in touch and arranged to get some food and drinks last week but she broke up with her BF so she cancelled. Anyway we met up yesterday.I took her to 4 different venues. First a nice but cheap place to eat, then a pub where we drank beer and played pool, then bounced to an ice cream parlour where we had some tea and ice cream and finally ended up in a German bar.

There was some kino like high fiving and conversational touching, some hugging. She was slapping me a lot when I teased her or made jokes. We asked a lot of personal questions and got to know each other better. She asked about my past relationships and told me about hers etc. She left her ex because he was dishonest.

Anyway at the german bar I looked at her in the eyes and told her I liked her. She asked me if it was like a friend and I said no. She asked why I liked her. I said it was because I think we are similar. Both love travelling, adventurous etc. She then just said sorry.

She saw me with a HB9 a few weeks ago and starts asking me who she was. I told her I'm sleeping with her but nothing serious and I showed her some topless pics of the other girl (this other girl has perfect breasts btw). She asks if it is normal in this country to sleep with people outside of a relationship and if so she might try it. I said yeah, we should do that. She said no because we are friends. So I said, it's ok lets not be friends anymore and laughed.

Then she starts saying that she won't talk to me again if I just want her for sex. I just changed the subject. Anyway somehow we got back onto this topic and she's accusing me of being inconsiderate by hitting on her so soon after her break up. I told her I'm just being honest. She tells me I was being selfish. I told her I'm selfish. So to sum it up she seemed a bit pissed off at me.

In the end when we parted I told her I wouldn't be contacting her again unless she contacts me first and gave her a hug.

So I've made a list of the mistakes I think I made:

- I made my move too quickly.

- I told her I liked her instead of just going for the kiss (from the kino I didn't get the vibe she was down to kiss so decided just to tell her since I'm leaving this city soon and couldn't be bothered to drag things on).

- I engaged in her cross questioning of me as to why I liked her and why I hit on her so soon after she broke up. Should I have just disengaged from those topics?

- I made her feel like I just wanted sex (which is the truth).

- Showing her naked pics of the girl I'm currently sleeping with made me seem like I'm not discreet.

I'd appreciate any feedback you guys could give me.

Not compatible

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I am no expert, but here's what I would have done differently:

- If I didn't feel that she was down for a kiss, I would have ended the interaction at its highest point (4 venues bit too much??) and would have waited for another date with the same girl in which I would have tried escalating again.

- saying 'i like you' directly (in a way which indicates you are down to fuck) is probably not a good idea (if you want sex). It takes all the fun factor away. girls love the feeling when they know they care more than the guy does. Reverse this, and the girl won't be so interested anymore.

- showing naked pics of someone you have slept with isn't a good idea for many reasons. I don't even know where to start.

- i would have joked about her accusation by saying "i am taking advantage of you, and you love me for it" while smiling and winking. Qualifying ("I'm selfish") or going defensive ("I didn't mean to take advantage") aren't the best of strategies.

Of course Dragula may be right when he says you guys were not compatible, but we'd never be able to know whether that's right or wrong. In the end, you can only try to be at the best of your game.The rest is not in your hands.

Hope my analysis helps

You showed a girl topless pics of another girl? Don't ever do that. She is probably thinking you are going to do it to her.