Hey guys,

I was on a date with a girl I met tonight, and learnt something valuable that I feel an extraordinary urge to share it with you guys. I think this value would boost your first date outcome(s) by a mile.

So I'm an average 19 year old guy who was and still is looking to improve my natural game. I went on a few dates before and it would never escalate to a second date. Something was wrong in the way I built my attraction on and tonight I found out the problem. On my old dates, I would always be nervous and set a goal on each date to finish it with at least a kiss close, thus pressuring me to achieve that kiss that would possibly "seal the deal." The pressure would control the way I would build attraction which ended up consuming boring dates with bad outcomes. These girls would reject me the next day and lowered my self confidence. Tonight I decided I would stop challenging myself for a goal and would go with the flow. I was a little nervous in the begging bit quickly it shook off and I was building kino with her and next thing you know is us making out at some Park. I felt that the fact that I wasn't expecting an outcome really improved my date by a mile and I enjoyed the date instead of being all nervous and trying to force myself to reach a kiss close. I think this value can help us repair our game by allot.

Well being outcome independent isn't exactly a new concept, but I'm happy for you OP.

But yeah, putting unnecessary pressure on yourself can fuck up your performance.

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Yeah I'm aware that it isn't new, although I still felt an urge to share the great experience and outcome I had. What I didn't mention is that for the first time I was actually really enjoying and having fun on my date which is new because before I was to pressured to have fun. It was like filling a dangerous task when I pressured myself because I thought that if I didn't achieve the outcome I ordered myself to achieve I would ruin everything.