I live and work around austin Texas and decided to go on a trip to Dallas 2.5 hours away with a couple friends for the long weekend. First day in dallas we run some daygame at a mall there. I got the number of a solid 8 on Saturday from a direct approach who told me she had no plans for the weekend (she is 30 and I'm 26, but I told her I'm 27). I called her same night and we meet at a bar, had a great conversation and went back to my hotel room later, where we rolled around on the bed clothed and made out, but she wouldn't let me go further and left.

Yesterday, I called her again and we spent the whole day together getting lunch and dinner together, walking through the park and other activities before we came back to her place where we made out and groped on her bed. Again, she wouldn't let me go any further and was worried her roommate might walk in. So we finished the night at a bar and made out again before we said good night.

I like this girl a lot, she is well educated, gorgeous and has a similar lifestyle to me. I want a relationship with her, she is highest quality girl I've ever been with. Problem is that I'm in the army and live 2.5 hours from her in Austin. What can I do to keep this alive (I also have a feeling she has an arbitrary number of dates in her head that must pass before sex). How do I proceed from here with communications and setting up future weekend dates? I only started approaching about 6 months ago and have never gotten this far before. Thank you for your help!

You should definitely go meet more girls

Slow down there Turbo. You're a bit quick to the draw and you don't want to scare her off.

Keep doing YOU, and don't make her the end-all-be-all as it's sounding as though you're developing an acute case of Onenittis.

Girls will know you will lose interest eventually, you should get sex on the next meet up - traditional 3rd date malarkey. This is important for girls who want to make a boyfriend out of you which seems like you would like to be.

Text her, meet her up and do the same again. If she resists. Sometimes a little drama such as "I thought you you were attracted to me? " - it's pretty needy but I've made it work haha

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OP Here,

UPDATE:

Somehow I managed to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. After our last sunday makeout session at her apartment, I had a short, playful text convo with her the following Monday. No contact for 3 days, until thursday when I texted to ask her about her pre-race routine to help me prepare for a fitness test I had in the morning (I'm in the army and she is a marathon runner).

Then today I called her, but it went straight to voicemail. So I texted her to ask if she wanted to go ice skating, something we tried to do last time but were unable (I tried to keep it playful by saying I used to figure skate as a child and wanted to show her my skills).

Before, all her texts were very upbeat and playful with emoticons and exclamation points, but when I asked to see her again this weekend, she replied with a curt "Hey. I'm out of town this weekend." She never mentioned anything about this last weekend in 5+ hours of conversation, I'm pretty sure it's BS.

Clearly, something caused her to change her mind about all this, but all I have is working theories of what I did wrong. My best guess is I shouldn't have started a boring text chain with her on Thursday about preparing for a run just for the sake of re-establishing contact after 3 days. From my limited experience, I believe calling is usually the better option with a higher margin for error although it takes more balls to do.

This is pretty jarring to me how quick your fortune can turn. I don't think I had any major fuck up, and yet here I am, went from a very solid prospect to maybe throwing a hail mary next week by calling to ask if she wants to meet up again. Very frustrating experience, even though I did things I had never done before and with an HB8 to boot. Am I right in assuming this is pretty much dead/any advice on how to proceed? Experience is the best teacher, but boy is she a bitch.

Glad you've thanked the people that has gave you advice...

She is being flakey but what I think you should do next time, stop with the small talk and be more concise.

Ask HER when she is free to meet.Put the pressure on her to pick a day. If she beats around the bush on her answer then you know to ditch. If she cancels coming the day, you know to ditch.

Too many guy's ask girls the wrong way, 'Hey let's meet on x day' - which happens to be her mother's birthday or something and then is construed as flaking if she say's she is busy.

Same applies to texting or calling, let them pick a day out of their schedule.

Me- Bla bla when are you free for that drink? 8pm city centre
her- Hey, erm, Mon or Wed ?
Me- Okay, Wed works for me. Try to keep your hands to yourself okay?

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Ok, that's interesting, I thought conventional wisdom was you as the man make the decisions like that. But if she's flakey, then I guess that's one way to handle it.

But in this case, I didn't give her a specific day to meet, I asked if she was free sometime this weekend to do XYZ.

Christ man

What is wrong with people around here not saying 'Thank you' ???? - I am done.

The way I was raised, I would thank people that took the time to help me but I guess i'm just a 'whiny bitch'...

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Moving forward keep the banter to being light, lively, funny, and airy.

Don't get into long text convos particularly so early as it leaves no mystery no intrigue for her to want to go out with you and get to know you better - you already read like an open book no surprise there.

She was probably on a level 5 attraction towards you so the buy-in was low to begin with, or least turned that way.

Calling isn't always the best idea especially if she has super low investment, and/or comfort issues to begin with.

Anyway no sense overthinking this good on you for the approach and follow-up now move onto the next.

Yeah OP's been rude but don't understand quite how much it bothers you

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Stop reading after this bit, but +1

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