After two months working with This girl, I finally picked my balls up and asked her out. She recently came back from a long trip and looked better than always. She was showing amazing IOIs. I saw her alone and asked if she wanted some help. Then I told her
Me: the reason I came here is that I wanted to ask you something for quite a while sometime now . But I'm too shy
Her: okay what is it? Smiling
Me: you see I think you're really cute
Her: oh thank you
Me: so I was wondering If you would give me the honour to take u on a date

Her: that's really sweet of u, but personally I don't like to mix work with dating . I don't like to shit where I eat you know ? But if we weren't working with each other I would have totally said yes . I still admire your courage
Me: no I get it, I totally respect that

Her: but if I quit, or even if u quit ....
Her: why don't we go for drinks sometimes

Which I said sure and asked if she's off the next day since I'm off . She told me she is but she has to finish her errands since she came back from the trip

I told her then that hey whenever you're ready just let me know. We said our byes and that was it

I was very disappointed but man what a huge weight got off my shoulders

Idk if its gonna happen but I don't like to put all my hopes up on this. Honestly she was the perfect girl and now I feel like that I just crashed and burn .

Whether she said yes or no isn't important. You have the balls to approach should be direct and that deserves to be commended. Most importantly of all you show to yourself that rejection ain't shit so take this lesson in moving forward and creating new opportunities with other women.

No one is perfect.

Also, don't tell girls you are shy

I'm actually proud of myself for taking the courage . But it kinda stings too

I thought you were going to say that you quit your job and asked her out again lol..

You gotta let it go man. At least for now.

In my opinion she was being nice, but she does respect you more now than she did prior. Keep playing it cool, don't push any more, and see if an better opportunity comes around to try again down the line.

And I know everyone says it but you really do not want to sleep with women you work with. I've done it, many others have and we all have came to the same conclusion.

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This was bad on several different levels.

"honour of taking you out"... what are you? a medieval knight?

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I would of quit my job there and then...

Then she will flake me

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Lol wanted to play it romantic

You did. How'd that work out for you?

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I tried so many lines from the book that didn't work nicely for me either

Like "you have an elegance about you that makes me want to get to know you better. Would you like to go for some coffee sometime?" Gambler
N many more

I just wanted to be original this time and it still didn't work

"You seem cool. Let's grab a drink"

Just use that.

Believe it or not I also used this line .... they'd come up with excuses and tell me "maybe next time" we all know what this means.
you see I know it's not about the words, but more about body language and tonality which I'm focusing to work on.
one thing that keeps making me lower my value is my social skills with others like her friends . I feel like I'm a nobody sometimes when i'm in group conversations even though I put effor. but somehow i keep DLV'ing my self .
like for example in my work situation, I'm the guy who always has to make an effort to say hi and say something interesting to start a conversation. But by studying their body language they tell me that I should bugger off.
mostly the alpha males.

long story short I am not an alpha even though I keep trying. but at this point in the workplace I gave up (not outside) and accepted for who I am and what they perceive of me. female coworkers who don't even give me eye contact in conversations or not even saying hi I'd just ignore them. Others who are friendly I'd be friendly

Just use that.[/quote]
Believe it or not I also used this line .... they'd come up with excuses and tell me "maybe next time"
you see I know it's not about the words, but more about body language and tonality which I'm focusing to work on.
one thing that keeps making me lower my value is my social skills with others like her friends . I feel like I'm a nobody sometimes when i'm in group conversations .
like for example in my work situation, I'm the guy who always has to make an effort to say hi and say something interesting to start a conversation. But by studying their body language they tell me that I should bugger off.

long story short I am not an alpha even though I keep trying. but at this point in the workplace I gave up (not outside) and accepted for who I am and what they perceive of me. female coworkers who don't even give me eye contact in conversations or not even saying hi I'd just ignore them.[/quote]

Stop trying to be alpha, this is your issue creating too much anxiety for yourself to be a certain way. ANY "SHOULD" you should abandoned - dogmatic thinking isn't healthy, yet we all do it.

This whole alpha dichotomy is ridiculous to be truthful.

Just BE and u'll BE shocked at how far that takes you.

It's not about the line. It's about who uses it.

If a creepy guy tells a girl :"I'd like to get to know you" and a cool confident guys says the exact same thing, which has more impact?

It's now about what's being said. It's about who and how's he saying it .

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How would a variant choice in words change an uninterested girl? You're really focusing on the wrong thing and making things complex.

On a girl that is interested in you:
-Could you do me the honour of me taking you out?
-Let's grab a drink sometime?
= get the date

On a girl that is disinterested in you:
-Could you do me the honour of me taking you out?
-Let's grab a drink sometime?
= get the flake or the dreaded ' maybe'

Get it?

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