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Whatsup guys. So my girlfriend and I used to have sex all the time. But then they're were complications, like we had sex drunk I didn't wear a condom, and then we had sex when she was high and I came but didn't pull out after cumming in the condom. So basically she doesn't trust me anymore. But the first one, I don't know why she blames me for it, I was more drunk then her and the second one I had no bad intentions I was really tired and thought she was enjoying it so I didn't stop. Of course I don't feel good about either and I wish that I had not done either, but I also don't want to live in the past. The main thing is, now she doesn't want to have sex because she's convinced that all of our fights have to do with sex. So, we haven't had sex for over a month, and she thinks it's great. But then if I start escalating she gets pissed and says she doesn't want to have a physical relationship with me. I'm really confused because I like her a lot, but I also am into her for multiple reasons, one of which being sex. Now if I bring it up she basically says that I just want to get laid or that I'm being mean. Then she says that she doesn't need to have sex with me because we aren't married etc. etc. I don't know what to do because she used to want to have sex with me all of the time, there was more drama (thought there's still drama) but it was also way more fun. We're more productive now, but there's no medium anymore. It's like we go and do tons of stuff and then there's literally no intimacy. But then she says she's attracted to me. I'm not sure how much longer I can do this because I really want sex, but we've also been dating for over two years, so I don't want to end it solely because of sex.
Bro you gotta realize this is your fault. She needs to be able to trust you and this is huge!
After she went and controlled and manipulated you for sex. Call it betaization where she turned you into a beta by witholding sex from you. The truth is, if she controls if you have sex or not, who has control over your sex life?
You are just friends with her now, she has the power. Man up and leave her. Realize that you can't do stupid shit with someone you care about like almost getting her pregnant, who gives a fuck if you were drunk. In the future find a girl who is on birth control who you can trust and not use condoms with her consent.
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