New here. I'm in a class with this chick and she's cute and clearly interested; pointedly hangs out by me, gives a lot of eye contact and smiles, etc. Got her number day one, immediately gave her a hug and have multiple times since. She's consistently been super responsive via text. Getting all the green lights.

She's flaked twice on getting together though claiming she's had to work last minute initially and then that she was, "busy" a couple nights ago. Flakes irritate me to no end. I know she's interested because again today despite me giving the cold shoulder she continues to make eye contact and immediately texted me after class asking if I'm not talking to her or just had to run.

I know women get nervous. I know most love attention. I know some just want attention. I want to bed this chick. I hate games.

Somebody give me something good here before I tell her to go f*ck herself and blow it.

Thanks in advance.

The easy solution is stop playing games with her. She even gave you a chance to tell her why you are acting that way and an honest and direct answer would have ended the gameplay.

The thing is that you obviously want to bed her so badly, you let her get away with these things. You want to bed her so badly, you're afraid to speak your mind about what's bothering you. You want to bed her so badly, you're trading in your self respect for it. There is no vagina worth all of that. Step away from the tease and find another woman that won't waste your time.

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It's not like I've been hounding her - I've sent her like six texts over the last few weeks dude.

An honest and direct answer? I've been honest and direct and that results in no response often. How specifically would you suggest being honest and direct? What would you do specifically? What would you say?

I've told her in person that we'll have to hang out to get to know each other, so in my estimation I am being very direct. I am often too direct and that lack of subtlety can kill it because women expect I am ONLY interested in sex.

I appreciate your response but it seems very assumptive.

I never said you were hounding her. I was saying that you let her get away with this.

How is not saying anything being direct, let alone honest? If it were me, I would tell her that I don't like it when women flake so I didn't feel the need to talk to her anymore.

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Fair enough. I sent this:

"Your flakiness and no response when making plans is a huge turn off and frankly I don't think you could handle me."

She replied two minutes later with

"Handle you lol. Fair enough. Sorry to bother you.",

three mins after that with,

"By the way. What do you mean.",

two mins after that with,

"And I'm not intentionally blowing you off. For the record".

My inclination is to tell her she can intentionally blow me off in person Wed night.

What are your thoughts?

P.S. I went with, "For the record you can come and intentionally blow me off Wed night."

Pretty f*cking direct, no?

That is direct with a mix of hostility.

Probably would help if you included the communication next time.

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Don't tolerate that behavior. I DO NOT mean that you should get angry, or tell her to fuck off or whatever because she blew you off. What I do mean, is that you should casually reward her for behavior you like, and punish her for behavior you do not like. It's step 1 when it comes to dog training, and doesn't differ much across species. When I say "Punish", it does not mean do anything negative, what it means is you should chase her less, back away and make her chase you, or do anything that shows non-interest.
With time, you will realize that these emotional takeaways are not faked. You will begin to see it as "Well if this is the type of girl that flakes, I have less interest in her because it annoys me when girlfriends do that. Therefore, she is of less value to me."

We most recently had a plan to get together a few nights back. She send me the address to come get her then text me saying she just wanted to be friends and to let her know if that changed anything. I told her I have been direct about having a sexual interest and she told me she's had her heart broken.

I basically ignored her after that and she later sent me a text showing me her thigh. It was relevant to the previous topics of texting but she didn't have to send it.

It's annoying and irritating when women act confused and play dumb despite it being extremely clear.

I feel like I should have just gone and got her and pretended not to receive that text. It's just fucking irritating.

O for fuck sake guys this girl likes the dude, but he has "I want to fuck you so bad" written o his forehead
all day - so naturally she feels UNCOMFORTABLE.

Dude, build some comfort with her instead of trying to go for the "kill" immediately. Don't just blame
the girl for not wanting to go along with your pressure.

Here are some ways you can do this:

1. Talk with her live after class or whatever. But don't talk about going on a date, talk about random
stuff. Just to build comfort. But be the one who ends the conversation. End it on a high-note, when it's
going great, and leave her wanting more.

2. If she texts you, don't answer immediately. Answer later and make sure you tell her
that you were doing something.

3. Talk with other girls so you free up the space in your mind that you're currently using to
think about how you want to bed her. Don't make this girl the primary girl in your life, but
make her as "one of the many".

4. Then ask her out or to hang out sometime. Make it something fun, like visiting a fun park or
whatever. Don't make it boring and predictable.

Some girls are more open and direct, others more shy and scared. Learn to deal with both, not just
"blow off" any girl that feels uncomfortable.

Be the fisherman, not the hunter.

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