How do you tell the difference between a girl hinting you should do something and her just making small talk?

There is this girl in a different department to me at work. (Yes I know about the problems relating to 'dating' co-workers but this is a totally separate department).

The other day I had an excuse to go up to her desk as I had some publications I needed to give to her. It was at the end of the day around 5.30pm. Some of her colleagues were still around. We had a short conversation and in the middle of it she asked me, ‘Are you up to anything this evening’. I said something like 'I'm going to the gym' She said, ‘Oh right’. I then asked her what she was doing and she looked away (she was looking at me up to this point) and said something about she might be doing something with friends later but she had to stay to finish her work first.

Do people think I missed an opportunity here to ask her out or was she just making small talk?



Thanks for any help!

You miss the shots you don't take.

Her: Are you up to anything this evening?
You: I'm going to the gym. Let's go. It will be fun.

If she goes with you, there's your answer. If she doesn't, invite her some other time.

Drill these magic words into your head: LET'S GO.

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Thanks for your reply. Yes I should be more spontaneous and try to make more out of these situations!
It would still be helpful though to know more about what is going a girl's mind when she says these sorts of things.

Maybe.. Maybe not..

But isn't their still opportunity to walk right up to her the next time you're at work and ask her out directly? Whats stopping you from doing that? You're looking for "ion's" but you're not Assuming attraction. Those are both principles taught within this community.

Pretend she wants to go out with you and ask her with the confidence as if she were sure she does. It is that confidence that inspires a woman to take a greater interest in you.

Go ask her, and then tell us what happens.

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I'm with everyone else here...go for it. Hardest thing to get over is fear of failure. Most times even when she says no and gives an excuse such as...I have a boyfriend etc and decline women seem intrigued by the offer and the show of balls, so just go for it.

Feminine women are mainly emotional rather than logical. If you looked at a feminine woman's mind or relied on what she says, you'll never get laid. You'll have to focus on what a feminine woman feels and not what she thinks. She doesn't want to think. She wants to feel. Moreover, women have a language of their own. Unless reading a porn movie script, you'll rarely hear them say things as they are like "Fuck me right now." They'll likely say, "Do you live alone?" And if they felt comfortable with your answer, they'll follow that up with, "Can I sleepover your place?"

When a feminine woman feels like going to the gym with you, she will go. But you'll have to invite her first very casually. Feminine women are also prone to mood swings. One minute she doesn't want to hangout with you and then 30 minutes later, she wants to ride your cock. When a feminine woman gives you a window of opportunity, take it. She will likely NOT feel the same two days or three weeks from now.

Unless you like masculine women and you're a submissive male, good things come to those who take.

Let feminine women feel your masculinity and you'll do better. Take. Don't wait.

Some masculine traits to focus on to be more attractive to feminine women:

1. Take charge and decisive.

2. Calm and calculated.

3. Logical and facts-based.

Some feminine traits to stay away from as a man:

1. Dilly-dallying and indecisive.

2. Hysterical and nagging.

3. Emotional and judgmental.

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