I need some help guys. I'm pretty confused about this girl that i'm in love with. We do everything together except for the whole making out and sexual side. I've known her for more than a year and we were doing a lot of stuff together (playing sports, going out, hanging out at her place, took her to a wedding). When I told her that I loved her, she ended up telling me that she's not good enough for me and that I've got all of the things that she wants but she can't love anyone cause she doesn't want to get hurt anymore and she doesn't like herself and that's it and that I don't have a chance ever. She also said that she doesn't want someone that bends over backwards for her. I ended up walking away from her for 2 months and I couldn't take it anymore b/c i've never felt this way about anyone before and told her that I'd rather have her as one of her best friends then nothing at all because my life sucked without her. She was happy about that, called me, and wanted to meet up. So, we ended up hanging out for the last 2 weekends which has been super awesome. 1st weekend, we went out, she dressed damn sexy, drank, had good times, went back to her place, drank some more, chillaxed, talked in the early hours of the morn...she made breakfast the next morn and we hung out and watched tv and that was it. She also asked me the day after what does it mean when someone tells a girl that's been drinking that she's wet. I was like, I dunno it depends on the context - and then I said it was probably sexual and that was the end of that conversation. I remembered I said that she's all wet now the night before cause I spilled some drinks on the table - so I don't know if that was what she was referring to so I just played it off like it was nothing special. She said she was gonna come out with me 2 days later to a trade show and she asked me if I was going alone. I told her I was going with my buddies and she said she would come - she ends up ignoring me that day and tells me at night that she lost her phone and then found it which is why she didn't get back to me earlier - I think is serious BS. A week goes by, we go out alone this time to a bar, another bar, and then a club. We dance, she buys me drinks, she teases me, i tease her...she tells me she'll dance to reggae and when it comes on we grind a bit for the first time ever and I wanted to kiss her so bad but ended up leaning my forehead against hers cause I don't know if I should or shouldn't - I don't want to lose her again or piss her off. I also told her before I left that I always wanted to kiss her and she smiled right away when she heard that and then told me that friends don't do that - so this was replaying in my head that night we were dancing so I couldn't pull the trigger despite the booze factor. She then asked me if I was ok and bought me two more rounds of drinks. She starts saying things but I can't hear her cause of the music and when I ask her to repeat what she said into my ear she says don't worry about it - this happened about 3 times. We go back to her place again, she hints at having me make her breakfast this time...I do, we chill out in the morning...she tells me she woke up singing some song I guess suggesting that she's happy...I'm confused...She then talks about how she's going to rent some movies for the next two days to relax and save money and that's it and that she's going to see her family. I want to see if she wants to watch with me at her place but I'm not sure if I should push things right now cause we just started hanging out again as friends. The other thing is that even the night before she tells me that she's lucky cause she gets to see me 2 weekends in a row. I'm fucking confused and I don't know what to do. Is she fucking with me or am I thinking way too much or a combination of the two or is it something else? We were also playing a game at one of the bars and she tells me a joke that she can fit a pineapple up her ass and she pawned it off some Hilton parody. I then ran up ahead of her in the street and waited for 20 sec looking at my watch and told her she's late - she said something like she can't walk fast or she's got something stuck up her ass and I told her well u can fit a pineapple up there...she laughed and said that she was waiting for that. WTF do I do? I love this girl and I don't want to ruin the friendship by making a move now...should I wait for her to kiss me...and yes...I am a virgin

PRE-SELECTION!! Get more women in your life. Let her see you having fun with other women. Seriously. It'll do a few things: you'll be less stressed by having fun with other women - you think you're in love with her and you might be at that - but other women around will show you that you can be happy with others too, reduce your one-itis and make you 100 times more attractive to her. Jealousy works - use it. Putting yourself in the mind-set of attracting other women will also make you more attractive to her. Do it. This isn't playing games, it's self-improvement.

WOW..you didn't just shoot yourself in the foot..you cut it off. I see multiple times where she wants to like you but you fail to act on it. You really need to work on pulling the trigger instead of thinking about shit, thinking has its places, but it is useless in pickup.

my advice: get over her, you completely fucked this one up with your "my life sucks without you" comment, go out and complete styles little 30day mission thing. You need it. It will help you with your thinking problems, build confidence and cure one-itis.

Best of luck

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