Howdy! been a ghost on this forum for quite some time now. This will actually be my first post here:)
I have usually found very good answers on this forum which have helped me out alot. But now i am a bit confused and need some guidance.

It all started at a christmas party, where my girl best friend introduced me to this girl. We instantly "clicked" and spent the whole evening together.. talked, danced, made out etc. The days to follow after the party we texted and sent some snaps now and then, but only casual. So i told her that she should come to this party that i was throwing, 2 weeks from that time. She was very excited and thats when things started to escalate on texts with flirting and so on.

Its probably worth to mention that she broke up with her ex in November. They had been together for 3 years, when she found out he was cheating on her with this other girl. From what i've heard from her, the ex sounds like the neediest guy ever, and he has been playing the sympathi card to try to get her back.

Now knowing this i tried to escelate a bit sexually with texting to keep the flame alive until the party. There wasnt everyday we texted and i didnt see the reason we should, as i knew she was coming to my party?

We had a great time at the party and everyone was having fun. I f-closed her that night.
Before we had sex she told me that she didnt do this without being serious. This has been kinda standard with girls i've been with so i didnt really think about it that much. But then she told me that she only have had sex with 1 guy.

The morning after she was texing me with heart emoticons and kissy faces and all that. And she got alot more cuddly trough texts. Later that evening i got a text that she had went to her ex to tell him that he had to stop trying to get her back, and that them getting back together was no option. Her ex had freaked out and used violence against her and threathen her with her life. I called her and told her that she had to call the police etc. We talked for an hour until she calmed down. After i hung up, i got texts on how much she missed me, and questions about when she could come back to my place etc. This happend on a sunday btw.

On monday we made plans for the weekend. We didnt talk too much but early friday i got a loong message from her that she needed some time for herself after all that have happend. She was also saying she was sorry about how she suddenly changed her mind on things. So she asked if we could jbf.

Fast-forward 2 weeks... i was driving my girl best friend to a party and this girl happend to be at that party.
She came to my car and jumped in. She was saying how sorry she was and wondering if i was mad about her. I wasnt and said that i just have been busy with school the last 2 weeks. (havent been talking to her that much). She said she didnt want to party that night but i convinced her to go back inside after a while. Before she went back in i kissed her, and i could tell by her face that she wanted more.

When i was out partying this thursday she texted me, but i didnt answer until late. She then started to text my friend to check up on me.

Now all of this have got me very confused. I dont really know what to do from here, but right now im thinking about asking her out. From all the signals she is sending i can tell that she is deffo not over me.
I'd really like to know this girl better and start things up where we left them.
Any good tips to do in this situation?

With me I'm reading a lot more understanding. Read several other web site for me. I'm reading this to understand it better.

Long story short, she DOES like you but she's still seeing her "ex" and is finding it difficult to leave him properly.

So far you've played it quite well, you haven't been needy and she still wants more, but with the guy still in the picture its a bit too complicated for her to deal with properly

Update: I had a week off from school, so i decided to go back home. I havent really talked to this girl other than on thursdays when she knows i've been out drinking.
I texted her and said that she should come back to my place on sunday and watch a movie. We did, but nothing happened more than kissing. (Didnt have the house bymyself so wasnt the best conditions) A couple of days later with some flirting texts back and forth, she asked me out on a date! I took lead as this girl needs to be lead. Choose a place and time. We had a great time and we went back to her place to watch a movie. I spent the night there and f-closed her twice. Now everything is great and she is traveling 2hours on friday to spend the weekend with me. But there is something bothering me... She is a very attractive girl so she has alot of boys swarming around her. And today she arrived at school in another guys car. I get this information from my best girlfriend without asking btw.

Should i be bothered by this and should i confront her in any way? We havent talked about being exclusive or anything so i dont feel like its the right way. Or should i just keep being awesome and stand out from the other boys? I'm not the one traveling 2 hours to see her...

Trying my luck on tinder in the meantime

So... she flaked last minute and sent me a long text that she doesnt have her head straight right now etc etc. And that she didnt have the right feelers like she should have about "US" right now. // Added her nemesis on facebook the other day, and she totally flipped! Not on me but on this girl.. (but no way thats the only reason she flaked)//
So this is the 2nd time she 180 turns on me..
I texted her back:
Me:
"I dont know how long i can keep up with your problems."
Her:
Yeah i know You dont deserve this..
Me:
Well we can either reschedule for next weekend when you hopefully have your head straight.
Or we just call this off and you text me when you have you're shit together.
Her:
Thanks for understanding
Let me think about it
--------------------
Havent heard from her since. Now i regret sending the last text, but whats done is done. She went from being very clingy, to cold in a very short period of time. (Tagged me in pictures about traveling together etc on monday.. Ice cold on friday)

I went out that night and had fun! I made out with a girl and slept with another. Small town so word gets around quick, i think she knows but i didnt try to make her feel jelly or anything. Anyhow none of it felt right and i'm still kind of bummed out about her not coming.
I feel like i've done everything "right" up to the point where she flaked! And now this is the outcome.

Is it time to just forget about this girl? I am trying but daaamn think i got them one-itis