Hi there,

For many years now I have been trying to control my life. Certain events in the past damaged my sense of self, causing me to control my behavior. This involves being extremely nice to other people, putting others before me and because I was always thinking about what to do and say, I didn't have even the slightest sense of humor. As a result, I never had any serious girlfriends.

When I graduated from secondary school I became more independent and I had a gap year. I traveled to South Africa and had an awesome time. I realized that life is about being happy and taking care of yourself, and not necessarily of others. I decided that I wanted to live life to its fullest expression. I began reading books about self-improvement and I began challenging myself.

One part of my happiness involves being able to connect with women. I definitely want to improve on this field. I have read The Game by Neil Strauss and I am currently reading Mike Pilinski's 'Without Embarrasment'. I am getting some pretty good advice here.

But just core theory isn't enough. I definitely need some advice of you guys who probably went through a similar cycle. I hope you guys can help me. You will definitely see me drop some questions in this forum and I will be looking forward to your responses!

Greets from Amsterdam

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