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I am literally getting the same situation about six times a week, whether it be a tinder girl, a girl I met at the bar, or a girl I met at school. I am good at getting them attracted, building rapport, and when they come over I can fuck the shit out of them, and they all leave happy and begging for more. I have all of that shit down. But fucking holy god damn hell when it comes to getting them to actually come over what the fuck I have tried so much shit and it always ends up in "nah I am gonna go out with my friends" or "nah I gotta work tomorrow bro" or some dumb shit excuse. At first I thought it was just the girl legitimately has some other obligation which happens, but what the fuck it happens literally every god damn time. I haven't had a girl over for weeks unless I take her straight home from the bar when we are both drunk.
I think part of it is building rapport over tinder and text? I have no idea how to open up without being weird or needy via text, additionally I think I am doing pretty well with the conversation.. especially at first she is loving me over Tinder, but this quickly dies down and I get bitchy mode/excuse mode/no response mood fucking quick. At least ten times a week on Tinder alone (I move around big cities in the Midwest).
Anybody have some advice for me or had the same sticking point?
Unless it's a straight-up hook up via Tinder (which you've had?) it's hard to get girls to your place on the first date... I mean DIRECTLY to your place.
I've had minimal luck with that.
Second date, that's much easier... They know who you are... they're relatively comfortable around you.
You need to grab a drink around the corner from your place first. Let her screen you to make sure you aren't a sociopath - then suggest taking things back to your place... The booze is free and she'd love to see your fish... (Make up an excuse why she should go there).