Hello I just recently discovered the amazing PUA community and I decided to join this forum !

I'm 20 years old, live in Brussels, and I have almost no day/night game at all ! At this point, i've only f***ed 2 girls in my life...

I'm a really picky guy, so both were gorgeous (I would say a 8/10), but it was pretty easy because they gave me all the signals. I just had to kiss them, I didn't use any game. I let them do the whole thing haha (one was in the same seminary than me in College, the other a really good friend of mine, and both were kinda nympho lol).

I'm not that shy, I can talk to a pretty girl and make her laugh, but when it gets too intimate, like when I have to show her that I'm interested, ask her number or kiss her, I lost all confidence (I lost my balls as we say in french). Also I've never kissed a girl that I met in a bar, even if I felt that there was a little attraction between us, I just can't go for the kiss... (when I was younger I only kissed girls that I danced with in nightclubs, but there's no talking needed, they just look at you and if they find you cute, you can go for it. It was easier when I was sixteen/seventeen haha old good times).

But anyway, I'm here to learn from you guys, you will be my PUA's gurus, since I haven't developed any game at all, I just wait for the girls to come, and we all know cute chicks don't do this often ...

I'm 5'10, 170 lbs lean at 12% body fat, so I got a pretty decent beach body look, but here in Belgium, it looks like girls don't give a damn about the muscles, they just wanna date the skinny/chubby confident belgian guy, so I guess it won't help it since we do not have the fitness culture in Europe...

I'm not the most handsome guy on the planet but I got a decent face. When I'm out and there's gay people, they all try to pick me up.. I definitely have more success with gay guys than with women in Belgium hahah (too bad I'm straight huhu).

So there it is ! I have no problems talking to girls but I have no confidence at all, that's why I started lifting but it did not help my game tho... When it comes to get out of my comfort zone, showing I'm into her and not just a random friendly guy, I can't make any steps further, I freeze and so the girl thinks I'm not interested. I got no balls ! I'm scared of being rejected, even if sometimes I see there's a little attraction...

Enough said about me I hope I'll find here good advices to help me build confidence and a solid game with girls. Thanks for reading me guys, see you on the forum !

P.S. : If there's any pick-up artist in brussels on that forum, let me know so we can meet up and share some strategies, be the wingman, etc. I speak French, English, and a little bit of Dutch.

je suis desolé. ne parle pas francais bien. je suis anglais.

its all practice practice practice. when you get that ball-less feeling, try it. the worst she can do is reject. all you do then is learn and adapt. understand why she rejected you and overcome.

we're always here to review and advise.

good luck