Well, here's the thing. I met a 36 yo woman at the gym, she looks great, been talking with her for 1 month and a half on facebook, but since 1 week and a half we started flirting like hell, we even started talking dirty. The thing is, she's scared because of her husband (I've heard her husband is a pimp ... I don't give a fuck about that anyways, but ... she's scared). She even said she wants to fuck, I said it too. She even gave me a perfume as a gift, great one! She said it was her pleasure and shit like that...

3 days ago we met, finally, she came with her car to my block, I followed her with my car to a parking lot, then I got into her car, backseat (black windows and shit, so nobody can see me). She drove a bit, parked it in another place (btw in 2 min of driving she said hello to 4 persons ... she's pretty known in the city, I assume that's why she's scared). In those 2 minutes she kept saying "damnnn I'm so dumbbb, what I am doinggg?"

Finally we kissed, just a short kiss, she took a step back, went to my car (I was in a hurry, she was too, her family was waiting for her lol!). Then she calls me, asks me if I was tense, I said yeah a little bit, not much ... then she asked me: "why didn't you kiss meeee?" I said because you took a step back and I didn't wanna force you (why I did that? Cause 1 min before we kissed she took off her glasses to show me that she cried, because of her husband, she cried like 2-3 days in a row). Then she said: Pffft you are right, I'm so dumbbbb, that was my fault, I've been acting like a 13 yo girl ... sorry.

Today, when I told her I go to the gym at 13:00 she said damn that's when I come there too. I said alright, we just act normally, I just said to her when I saw her: "Hey". That was it ... then went into my workout.

After I got home I said to her that I liked how she was acting ... relax and shit like that, like nothing even happened between us that we didn't even know each other.
She says: "Anyways ... I had the feeling that everybody from the gym was looking at me, knowing everything ... I was really stressed, but I don't wanna be in the gym when you are there (here I'm assuming she wants to be more relaxed lol, to forget about her paranoia)".

Then she says this: "You don't understand...I feel guilty because what we're talking and I think everytime if everybody would see what we're talking about pff ... for example your training partner, he looked at me differently today."

Although, I told my friend about this shit, the thing is this, I did the whole workout with him and maybe he glanced 2-3 times for 1 second each time, lol, I'm really sure he didn't looked differently at that woman ... but she's PARANOID.

I told her that I want her to trust me ... because I don't tell anybody what we're talking about, and this is between us and I won't tell anybody because she'll be in danger if the word goes out to her husband. Wrote a lot more, some good stuff, worth it ... she got back in that nice mood, she says: "Pffff, alrightt I believe you."

Then ... back with the little flirt shit: "I wanna be in your arms, it's so cold here, I want to feel you" ... etc, things like this.

So, basically this is it. 1 day before we've kissed she told me that he had a little fight with her husband, that she cried, etc, she asked me what I thought about her in that moment, and I said I'm sure she's dissapointed and she's gotta forget about this shit and do what relaxes her the most.

She says to me: "Yes, I wanna make love with you".
I asked then directly ... When and where?
She says: Hmmm I don't know ... maybe we rent an apartment or something.

As a final note, she really wants it, but she's paranoid, she's afraid to do it. What advice would you give to me guys for this situation? I really want to bang this one and she's fucking great ... and I've made some good connetion with her, she really likes me (maybe she loves me ... sometimes she says things like my love ... I love you, etc ... and a looooot of things like this). Well ... ? What would you do in my situation guys?

Thanks a lot, I really apreciate it!

If you want to bang doh:

1. Re-assure her that you will not tell anyone and be extremely secretive about the whole situation.

2. Do some emotional spiking. Don't just let her tell you that you shouldn't do things do some push and pull yourself. So escalate with her (say in the back of the car or wherever you can) then step back saying that you shouldn't do it. Then say after that you like her soo much and want to fuck her hard and deep. Then say after that you shouldn't do that. Then say that shes soo amazing. Get it?

3. If you really want her crazy (she sounds crazy already so this will make her go a bit nuts - women ey?) then just flirt with other girls in the gym when she's there. She'll get totally jel and will be off/angry with you but will deep down want you to just be like "All I want is you" and take control of the situation and fuck her brains out.

That should work. Don't get yourself killed tho.

Thanks a lot that's a reaaaally quality reply. But ... how the hell do I get her out of that paranoia shit? I need to get her more relaxed ... I don't even know if now I should tell her directly let's fuck ...

You know what I mean?

You gotta look at it like a balance. Its a cost vs benefit situation. Her desire represents the benefits and the risk of getting caught is the cost.

If the desire to fuck you outweighs the risk then she'll do it. So the second two of my suggestions will increase her desire whilst the first will decrease the risk. To decrease the risk further:

1. Tell stories of how you are trustworthy and secretive/ generally behave in a trustworthy and respectful manner.

2. Set up situations that are safe for her. (meet outside of familiar areas).

3. Let her know that you understand her situation and would never do anything to jeopardise her family relationship.

What I'd do here is meet up on date somewhere far away where she won't know anyone. Make sure you know a hotel or B&B close by. Get the situation to a sexual boiling point by using the push pull and running game. Then "spontaneously" book the B&B or hotel.

Recipe for great sex. And if you're good in bed + trustworthy she'll do it over and over again. A bit like the Nelly song.

Alright, that is really good. One last thing though. If you were in my situation, how you would tell her that you wanna meet her, you wanna fuck her, etc? I'm not sure yet if I should be very direct or not ... she once said she wants to suck mine ... I said I'll give her oral, etc, she said many times she got wet, blabla, a lot of dirty flirting. But ... this is a different situation that's why I'm curious about what it would be better to do ...

Thanks again!

Generally try and keep consistent with her level of attraction. In my opinion I think its a combination between steady progression with what she's comfortable with and a balance between raw sexual dominance and emotion. Long sentence so I'll break it up:

Steady progression with what she's comfortable with

What I mean here is that generally you can only take small steps from where you are SPAM. I say generally because every woman is different so this is just a general rule to follow. You say she's messaging you re oral. How often is this? How comfortable is she saying this? Generally you should aim to judge these things and then push it slightly above where she's at SPAM.

balance between raw sexual dominance and emotion

So here what I mean is every women has the constant raging dilemma of wanting to be dominated sexually by an alpha male but also wanting an understandable and emotional man who is going to stick around when she's preggers and take care of her (these are deep subconscious desires so she won't say this). So generally you can push things a lot further when you are emotional at the same time. So say her name is Suzanne you will be able to get away with "Suzanne I really care for you, I've never connected with someone like this. I can't wait to fuck you deep and make you cum all over my dick." far more than "Suzanne I can't wait to fuck you deep and make you cum all over my dick.". Now please bare in mind my first statement here Generally try and keep consistent with her level of attraction.. Sounds like you already have the attraction though so I'd work on the comfort/emotion and mix it with some sexual dominance.

Make sense? Give it a try anyway. You can only learn.

Thanks a lot, I'll keep you guys in touch about what will happen next! Have a great day/night, cheers!

Just got back. This worked like a charm! I banged her 3 times, first like 1 month and a half ago, I was just too busy and didn't have time to update this. But, here I am, back. Thanks a lot for your tips guys, you are the best!