the mix you are describing is the perfect recipe for a relationship! i am 100% sure that she likes you, so next time you are going to hug her goodbye, just wait a bit look her in the eyes and hold a firm eye contact and lean towards her face, if she leans in kiss her, if she pulls away turn you head a bit and hug her instead. you will therefore have nothing to lose. you just need to go for it, and keep escalating, touching her waist, holding her hands, touching her neck and such things

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If what you say is true, and she is giving you signals and opportunities to be more than just friends. Read the the accompanying links and apply the material TOMORROW. I capitalize tomorrow because you need to speed this up before another guy like me comes along and bangs her brains out. It would also be wise to take her out of your normal routine (work, ride home from work) and put her in a casual place that she feels safe with you. Although this isn't necessary. Make sure to not talk about work with her at least for this one day, it may feel like a natural topic but you don't want her to associate you with the place she hates going everyday.


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if I think of anything else I will post

Damn me and her had a talk last night and she told me straight up that she isn't ready to have a boyfriend yet. Not because she doesn't like me but it's because she's very busy since she has to two jobs, she has to take care of her family, she has to take care of her cousins, and much more. She's pretty damn mature for a young girl with all these responsibilities that she has so she told me straight up that "let's get to know each other" but she didn't make me any promises on whether she'd accept me as her boyfriend or not.

She told me straight that if she wasn't so busy that she'd be my girlfriend right now but sadly i'm a victim to circumstance here.

I guess this situation with her is a dead end situation huh? It seems like I have to go back to the drawing board and find a new girl to date all over again....

which is easier said than done since after high school based on my experience.... it's REALLY hard to get dates with girls because pretty much all girls you meet are gonna be taken already, too busy (like her), or have children already....

I have no idea what to do now. This situation is so frustrating since I never had a girlfriend before and I thought I was close....

Shit test... She wants to see how dedicated you are! If you really want a girl There is no dead end. I was badly frienszoned by my latest girlfriend and She told me the exact same thing, she had to take Care of her sisters and School so i Would not be fair to me if we got in a relationship, total bs! The thing is if you accept the situation, Then yes, it's a dead end, but if you trie to change it the Right Way, She knows you are for Real and that you are the one.. Remember the Best relationship is build on friendship and attraction so make sure Both of Them is there

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So now that this is what I gotta deal with.... what exactly is there left to do in order to try and get her to be more than friends?

I wont even lie bro.... it would be totally fine with me if we were FWBs if she had no time for a real relationship. I just wanna achieve something more than just simply being her friend

So what would your next move be the next time you see her if you were me? I have literally no idea what to do right now

Kiss her

You need to go for that kiss. She might be waiting for you to do it and thinking that maybe you don't like her all the much if you haven't even kissed her yet. Man up bro and hope for the best;)
-Lindsay

So... i'm assuming you are saying just go ahead and randomly kiss her out of the blue? is that right?

when would be the right situation to do that though? I never saw any opening yet that felt right for me to go for a kiss

Don't just walk up to her and plant one on her. She might become a deer in a headlight. If there isn't a natural moment then make one. Do something romantic. But yes you need to kiss her.
-Lindsay

what are your suggestions for something romantic?

i'm sorry but i'm not really any good at this.... lol

Just do something romantic and kiss her. It is not rocket science.
-Lindsay

Dude we have been telling you to kiss her since you started this thread.. You need to get her alone in a place you both feel comfortable. This place will also allow you to sit close to her. Ask her how she likes to be kissed, this will let her know your intentions. Put your hand on her hand, look into her eyes for about 5 seconds, and lean in for a kiss. Please man, do us a favor and don't talk to her about being her boyfriend before you do this. I expect your next post to be something along the lines of " I finally kissed her". After that, we can talk about how to move the relationship towards commitment. That's it man! You have all the information you need. If you get scared I want you to think about how lonely you are at night and weigh the options. Also take into account tht it is just a matter of time before a guy like me comes into the picture and does exactly what I just told you to do. So someone is going to kiss this girl, will it be you or will it be me?

Mate it's so painful reading this because I've been there.

Shortly after I moved out of home I lived with a few people, including this girl. She and I would lie down on the couch together, pretty much like lovers, but I never pushed it, pretty much based on the reasoning you've given, that I didn't "magically discover" the right moment.

One such night I asked her if she minded me turning the light off. She didn't object. So we were lying there in each other's arms, in the dark, having not yet kissed. I stroked her, I caressed her, I messed about doing anything that wasn't aggressively sexual. Result: after a while of this she acted like this was all a mistake/misunderstanding. Seriously, we were lying in each other's arms in the dark and she tried to play it off like this was just "friendly" and I'd just read too much into it.

Still believe not escalating properly isn't fatal?

Make this your motto:

IF A MOVE CAN'T BE REJECTED, IT ISN'T WORTH MAKING.

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Escalate conversations into "us"
then if and when possible, go for the makeout.

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I'm curious.... what if she was possibly turned off by you due to something you said or something you did and she doesn't seem to be in love with you anymore like she used to be.

Any way of coming back from that or is your fate sealed and it's time to move on?