| So I've met this girl via tinder lately and all seemed well. Schedules dictated that we couldn't meet initially, so we talked quite a bit on text and joked/flirted a lot before we met, which worked out well as it made meeting seem more natural.
1st date seemingly went really well, a continuation of our texts - lots of joking, flirting, finished the night with a kiss, good stuff. She continued to seem really keen after this, initiating text conversation, face timed me one night when she got home drunk, made references to me being able to stay at hers, etc.. One night I was out with friends and so was she and she tried to get me to come meet her, it didnt work out, but again all indicators of her being very keen.
Then over the last couple of weeks she's died down. Texts have been sporadic, or she's stopped replying in a conversation or not replied at all. I've not chased too hard in those gaps, just left her a few days, and just when i think she's had enough or whatever i hear from her again. For example our last text conversation was Thursday last week, she again stopped replying midway through. I left it all weekend, pretty much thinking that's that, then just text her today on a whim, light heartedly said "have we fallen out? are u excited?" (excited referring to her going away for a few days this week)... nothing for a few hours, again I left it alone, thinking thats just confirmed that it's game over... then tonight she text me back and asks how my weekend was.
What do i do here? As i say, before she was real keen, like texting me constantly keen, and now it's very sporadic. Maybe i was too 'available' with those texts, or my guess is, obviously with the nature of tinder, that maybe she got somebody else, or just met somebody else so cooled her interest in me.
I havent replied yet to this last text yet (got it a couple of hours ago, and its getting late now). Whats my best play here? Take control myself, ignore her all together and not validate her sporadic responses with attention? Or reply as normal like its no big deal and just see what happens? I guess I don't want to be a chump and just take it when she's being hot and cold, but at the same time don't want to show i care. My approach so far has been to just roll with it and made conversation when she's text and tried to get it back on track with conversation, a bit of flirting, etc, but then it repeats, so we'll exchange a few messages, then it stops again..
Women, huh..
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