Hello everyone,
I'm trying to figure out the thing to do in a current situation. About 3 months ago, I met a girl at a function put on by a separate company. We sort of were neutral with each other, but I shot her a text anyways. We chatted for a little while so naturally I didn't have any expectations of anything. But then we went back to the company thing a few months later. She was aggressively flirting with me, and I sent some mild flirting her way. A few days later I found out from another person that she had a boyfriend who she had been dating for 2 months, but he was away for about 3 weeks on vacation. So I just stopped trying. But the day after this I found out that she wanted to do something with someone who wasn't her boyfriend (AKA hint at me) So next day, boom she kisses me. We swapped tongues for a little but that was it. I thought that would be the last time that I would see her. About 6 days later I just realized that I would love to see her again, so I called her up (fully knowing that she has a boyfriend) and asked her to dinner. She accepted. So I go down to meet her for dinner and it was just awesome. We had a great time, feeding off each other very well. After dinner, we do some light hooking up for a while, and eventually I took her home. Then the next morning I get a facebook message from her saying that she left her phone in my car, so we would need to meet up again. So we meet up again which led to some more light hooking up. Then we saw each other again the next day after that. With more serious hooking up. Finally I asked her to come up and visit my town ( I had been going to her area for the last 3 meetings) She wanted to come up to see it seeing as I live in a smaller town. And we had another great time out at dinner. Then we had some more serious hooking up. After that date her boyfriend came back from his vacation. She posted a few pictures of them together at social functions, the first time that she had ever done that ever on her Facebook. We've texted a few times since then, but its just been small talk. The other night, I asked if we could talk on the phone. She agreed, and we set a time.
She never called. I was sort of distraught about it, and I didn't even bother calling her or texting her about it. The real kicker is that her current boyfriend is leaving the country for good in 6 weeks and they're going to break up then.

I have just caught up in the whole thing. Is she just avoiding talking to me because she's afraid of temptation? Or is she just trying to finish with this guy who's leaving for another country for good, and then jump to me? I really want the opportunity to see her again. I have a feeling that she and I could hit it off again really well. Do I have a chance once the other guy leaves? Obviously I just don't want to sit around and wait, I am sort of seeing 2 other girls right now, but neither of them are as appealing as her. What is the move here? She just texted saying she wanted to talk Friday. I would really love your advice on this one here. I apologize for any incorrect etiquette by the way, this is my first time posting. Thank you!

if you did fuck her then she will come back probably, there is nothing you can do but wait untill she contacts you, don't appear needy.

We didn't fuck. She blew me, and I returned the favor but that's about the extent of it. I suppose I'm just impatient but it seems like she's purposely trying to not interact with me. Not sure what message that is sending.

just wait

Just an update, she and I talked on the phone on friday as planned. We made some small talk for about 15 minutes or so, catching up on various things in our lives. I had asked where things stood and she said she thought it would be wrong for her to break up with her current boyfriend because he was leaving in 6 weeks anyways and they were going to break up when he left. She told me they are mainly staying together because they are students at the same school and it would be wrong to leave him because he hasn't done anything wrong. I said I was okay with that, but that I'd still love the opportunity to see her again or over the summer. She intially asked when I was free next but then told me she didn't feel right, with him being back in town now. She did say that Summer was "Fair Game" as she put it and at the end of our call she told me that it was nice to talk to me, and I said the same. I know I'm probably putting way too much thought into this one, but I guess I'm seriously hoping I get the opportunity to see her. Haven't felt this way about someone in a while. In the meantime, I suppose the thing to do is just enjoy the time that I have and try some other girls correct? Thoughts, comments?

if a girl's excuse address to reason(logic), she is lying, this isn't the real reason.
she is probably using him, and right now the situation doesn't efficient for her to break up with him, even not for you.

She had revealed to me that he is friends with a lot of her friends. They are in the same friend group in a sense. And that they are all intertwined as friends. So it would essentially turn people against her. I bought that last part of it, but it still didn't make any sense to me. I am a little confused on what you mean though, I get that you think she's lying but what specifically are you talking about?

the same thing you just posted, she is using him for social interests, therefore she will not break up with him for you.
just enjoy your time without her, and analyze where could you F-Close her for next time it happens with her or with other girl.
at least if you would Fucked her she had good reason to come back to you, but now i doubt that.

good luck
~Vlad

I appreciate your help with this. I guess I am wondering and perhaps this is the wrong thing to ask but do you think I'll have the opportunity to see her again? I obviously can close if I see her. But yes I'll enjoy my time away for sure.

you know, my dad always told me, for those who seek the same thing they are already have inside or the answer that they looking for is within their mind, it never been easy to forget everything, girls come and girls leave at any point of your life right?
therefore whats stays is the feeling inside that you feeling now calm, that feeling he told me keeps increasing with each word you understand, this feeling is strong as mountain that stays the same at strong wind, strong as the rock that sea waves can not move on, at the spring just like right now it keeps growing, he told me i know you are feeling calm and that's how you are feeling from now and on, as this girl you know is being far as the plants in the space that someone one day will find them forgotten from any thoughts, you understand that not only you can forget any one you wish or just stop think about anything you want, as i told you before, people come and people go what is more important is what we want, let it be so and let it memorize it inside your mind, strong and clear as wind on peak of the mountains hits on your face.
he ask me how do i feel, so i was look deep inside my mind and i told him i'm feeling good and since this day i was calm and peaceful towards any girl, are you feeling it too right?

you know, my dad always told me, for those who seek the same thing they are already have inside or the answer that they looking for is within their mind, it never been easy to forget everything, girls come and girls leave at any point of your life right?
therefore whats stays is the feeling inside that you feeling now calm, that feeling he told me keeps increasing with each word you understand, this feeling is strong as mountain that stays the same at strong wind, strong as the rock that sea waves can not move on, at the spring just like right now it keeps growing, he told me i know you are feeling calm and that's how you are feeling from now and on, as this girl you know is being far as the plants in the space that someone one day will find them forgotten from any thoughts, you understand that not only you can forget any one you wish or just stop think about anything you want, as i told you before, people come and people go what is more important is what we want, let it be so and let it memorize it inside your mind, strong and clear as wind on peak of the mountains hits on your face.
he ask me how do i feel, so i was look deep inside my mind and i told him i'm feeling good and since this day i was calm and peaceful towards any girl, are you feeling it too right?[/quote]

I'm not sure I understand. I am at peace with the idea of me being not the right option right now, but I would like to see her in the future. I suppose I just am unsure with the idea that I might never see her again. People come and people go yes. But that shouldn't stop you from wanting to spend time with the people who YOU want to spend time with.

stop you want to spend time with her