| Well, guys, I acquired my first taste of any kind of success, yesterday, even if I'm still more of an AFC, than PUA. After a break of several weeks, I yesterday did another sarging attempt, and feeling looser than before, scored my first...well, email. (I know, Iknow, but that's where I'm most comfortable; I don't like texting anyways.)
The girl was a cute 6, and after a direct statement of interest that went well, with delightful ripples of laughter, she went onto laugh about my jokes on Greek tragedy. Emboldened by her laughs, and our common interest, I asked for her email, and got it.
In under five minutes.
No kino.
Well, hardly any. We shook hands, and I held it a mite longer than I needed. I know less kino leads to greater flakage, and I could, and should have escalated, but I wasn't feeling that bold, even with unprecedented success.
I went on sarging, filled my approach quota, and while I didn't have any other success that day, it still felt pretty good.
Later that day, I went to the gym, and was greeted at the desk by a blond I've been flirting with, about Easter weekend, and the like. As I proceeded on to the men's locker, I encountered a brunette who'd been showing volunteer interest the day before, and decided to side with momentum, and approach.
SHe responded well enough, but I asked for her number too quick, but agreed to look at my blog, which she agreed to write down, though I ended up helping her, given she couldn't spell it right. Not what I wanted, but it wasn't exactly a failure, either.
Thing is, the blond was withing eyeshot of us, and almost certainly witnessed me gaming the brunette, which can only help or hurt my chances with the blond--there's no neutral, here.
Was it a mistake for me to game the brunette with the blond watching? She'll think me a player, methinks, and I haven't been very smooth, to date.
I can think of is "He who chases two rabbits, catches neither."
Oh, what a wicked web we weave...later, I saw that brunette IOIing me while working out with someone who, almost certainly, was her boyfriend. Made me feel am ite superficial returning it.
Still, I managed to get another email, to day, from a girl in an office I visit who's shown interest in me for literally months, but I hadn't ever acted on because I wussed too much.
Clearly, my confidence has risen, and I don't have overwhelming approach anxiety, but I feel AFC, still, and need lots more practice. This was the first time I went direct, and that new directness, combined with body language, has made the difference, even if I haven't learned to throw kino into the mix, yet.
But I must repeat: Did I wreck my chances with the blond by sarging the brunette in the blond's proximity? I don't know how envy works, and how it helps and hinders the seduction process; all I know is I felt like approaching the brunette, and I did. _________________ If you ever get the idea that I'm a crazy contrarian, just get a whiff my blogs:
http://noitartst.com/
&:
http://thevanitymirror.com/
(I think I'm provocative in a good way; see if you concur!)
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