So I have a living situation where I can't bring women back to my place... I've had a hard time getting myself to get to their place and would love some advice on how to escalate and get to that point.

Anybody with similar situations I would love your opinion, thanks!

I can't relate to you now, but I was once in your position. Give me a little more detail on how the girl is, and her situation of whether she lives by herself and so on. I'll help you out.

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There's no specific girl, just in general because this problem won't go away for a while. Recent examples are one where she lives on her own and has a kid (weekends only will work) and one where she lives at home with her family.

Not sure I get your problem anymore..
Is that your problem of not being able to bring the girl back to YOUR place?
or is it a DOUBLE problem of not being able to go back to HER place EITHER?

I am also in your same predicament as I rent in a room in a family house, its a small room , and just don't feel comfortable to bring a girl back...
In the examples you give above the problem is evident. THEY seem also not comfortable bringing a man back home that easily because of their own obstacles:
1. The woman has a kid - so she is not just going to bring any man home that easily.
2. the other needs to coordinate a time where her family are out or she doesn't want to bring someone home for your same reasons.

My advice would be to stay away from women who have kids or who live with their family - if its going to get in the way of closing. Go after girls who lives alone or who live with other SPAM, set a date at HER place where you guys are going to cook something fun together. Then escalate their. But you'll have a lot of work to do if a girl lives with her family.

You could always say to her "I would invite you back to mine but....blah blah" then shut up. A lot of the time they will suggest theirs if they're DTF. Because it's you who escalates to the bounce and brings up the subject then they won't get the ASD they may have had preventing mentioning it in the first place.

Worked for me a few times when I'm visiting my parents.

In this case it's both, in some cases it's mine. So either way, the issue is that they can not come back to my place.

Persistently had this problem for a long time also. As far as I've managed to garner the only option is to just push for their place (even if their living with parents etc too). If they are living somewhere where they can bring you back to, they will. If not, you just gotta keep pushing it and hopefully they'll cave.
I used to try and come up with elaborate reasons as to why we couldn't go back to mine, but in the end realised I might as well tell the truth and say I'm living with my parents/little sister, once had a girl full-on begging to take her home even after telling her that but it's just a no go, and neither was her place.

My biggest advice man, do what I'm doing now, put all of your energy into getting your own place!

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Is there something I'm not seeing. Parents at least mine don't interfere with my one nnight stands. They encourage me.

I can only speak for myself on this topic.
Everyone's parents are different, personally, my mother had a problem with me and my ex having sex in the house, even when we'd been together over a year. Part of it is my own morals, the wall between my bedroom and my sisters is made of plaster, not bricks, and you can hear everything through it. I don't want my sister hearing that shit. My father has always been an encourager of my sex life, my mother the opposite, and they very recently separated, leaving just myself, my sister and mother. Ultimately, it's not my house and if I gotta deal with that for another 2 months (then moving into my own place), so be it, I'm not gonna 'cause family arguments for the sake of some drunken slut or whatever.

But if your parents are happy for you to bring random girls home, more power to you brother, some of us aren't that lucky.

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