| Last night was "thirsty Thursday." I'm a college freshman, but it's rush at my institution, so I went. The girls weren't beautiful; they were good enough. I approach the first one, and it goes okay. This is more a warm-up than anything else. I play with her a bit (her name was Mariah and she was Jewish... which isn't what I expected at all). That was probably my best approach of the night.
Second approach was on a different girl, probably the most attractive one I approached last night. I start teasing and playing with her, and that was all right. It was a sloppily done approach and impossible to hear her, so I didn't spend too much time with her. She seemed somewhat interested in my teasing, but since I had an 8 am class, I wasn't taking anyone back.
Third approach was on a girl whom I barely remember. After about a minute, her friend pulls her away (i.e. I know I f-ed up). By this time, understandably, I'm getting kind of pissed at myself. My approaches are normally above average-good. Obviously, they were terrible last night.
Fourth approach seemed okay until I push-pulled her; she said the worst line "I have a boyfriend" and walked away. At the end of this one, I was really pissed at myself. I walked back to my dorm, even though it was only 11:45.
On the way back, I thought about what had gone wrong, and I realized there were two major things. They clearly developed from many minor things, but I didn't think about all the minor issues. Those two issues were:
1. I've used the same routine so many times that it's getting boring to me. I need to change the routine up a bit.
2. I may have come off slightly needy, as I asked too many "data seeking" questions, which led to the girl losing interest.
SO WHAT AM I GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?
First, I'm going to modify my routine slightly and start assuming attraction more than I have been. This should lead to not trying as hard and therefore getting attraction far more easily. Second, I'm going to make more "cold reads" with the girls I approach, which should help get around "data seeking" questions. Even if I'm wrong, I can tease based on it. All in all, I see last night as more of a reference experience than anything else. It's something I can take, analyze, then build off of. I feel as though the biggest issue was that I took the first negative response and didn't let go of it; it threw me off last night.
Since I can't go out tonight (it's Yom Kippur), I'm going to read my material and work on subtly changing my routine. I want to go from teasing only to a combination of teasing and push-pull. I need to look at body language again, but that's not one of my main concerns.
Comments/questions are appreciated.
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