So I've been reading PUA books for about 6 months but never really applied it until a few weeks ago. I've been focusing on natural game a lot and I've really taken a change to pretty much everything, the way I talk, walk, well, everything. I have no problem with building rapport, talking to girls with maximum confidence etc. In my own friends words, I radiate confidence more than everything.

I'm also pretty good looking, above average height and dress well.

So today the ball really dropped. This isn't the first time it has happened. First, let me introduce one of my friends. He's ... indescribable. He's the guy that can't look a girl in the eye, would never even think about approaching a girl ( because he thinks that just by talking to a girl you would embarrass himself ), he thinks pretty much everything he does in embarrassing ( EVERYTHING! Just tying your shoes in front of people is about the worst thing that could happen )... he's... worse than the worst AFC I've read about online. I'm seriously not exaggerating, this is one of the most discussed subject in my circle of friends too, it's not just me. He gets anxiety attacks when he's thinking about eating pasta with a theoretical future girlfriend because he thinks it's hard to eat pasta without dripping sauce everywhere and so he thinks that he would embarrass himnself . BUT, he's pretty good looking, below average height and pretty well trained.

Yet girls are more drawn to him than me. And I've tried to analyze this in the most objective way but I just can't get my head around it. Of course, whenever he actually makes out with a girl, she's the one leading the whole thing, yet it happens more to him than me.

So we go to this bar, I see him talk to this girl that both him and me have been keeping a little bit of contact with online, and she points and me and I join in the conversation. I immediately take charge and quickly builds rapport with her, we talk pretty much the rest of the evening ( on and off, I go off to talk to other people a lot ), she's giving me good signs ( some kino, telling me I smell nice, just a lot of small things ) but suddenly my AFC friend sits down and she wants to switch place with me and says she wants to do so because she wants to sit beside the friend I mentioned earlier. Everybody leaves the table and I don't want to cockblock so I go too. A few minutes later they're making out.

What the hell. I know I'm digging my own grave when I'm writing this, I'm going to get criticism for being resentful and presenting everything in a subjective point of view, but I seriously just can't get my head around it. How can this be...? If you would do a list of attractive traits in a male, he would be the opposite ( personality wise ). How can girls be to someone like that at all? The fact that I'm this resentful says a lot about me, I know, I want to change that. But I simply can't get my head around this at all. Could really use some advice.

Who cares?

Honestly, what difference does it make?

I'm very good at this. Or I was when I was single. Better than 99.99% of guys I have ever met and nearly every single one of my friends. Many of whom are taller or richer or smarter or better looking than I am. I doubt they look at me with jealousy thinking they deserve better. Why? Because they are my friends and it just doesn't matter.

On the other hand, I have two friends that 9 times out of 10, used to mop the floor with me. Fortunately, there are plenty of other girls out there so when they beat me 9 times in a row, I just go to the tenth girl, or I know that she'll come along tomorrow or the next day and I go on with my life. It literally doesn't matter if someone is "getting more than their fair share" when the supply is essentially unlimited. I used to live with one of them and I remember being jealous at times. When I let go of that, literally everything in my life improved. Not just because I let go of jealousy of him, but of others universally.

I don't care what you have. I don't care what the other guy has. I care about what I have and the effort I am willing to put in to get more. Because there are very few people in this world who are driven, motivated, and willing to apply themselves like I am. And that feels better than getting what the other guy has, because its mine and no one can ever take it away from me no matter how many 10s they fuck, no matter how muscular they are, no matter how endless their bankroll is, no matter how much other people like them.

Stop comparing yourself to other people. If will get you literally no where. There is always going to be a guy getting more pussy. There is always going to be a guy getting hotter pussy. There is always going to be a guy with a bigger dick, taller, wealthier, more outgoing.

It doesn't matter. Really it doesn't. Take pride in being better one day than you were the day before and forget about destinations or comparisons. Learn to apply yourself and be happy with that. It insulates you from needing anything else in life but somehow brings everything else along with it.

Some true words of wisdom. I really needed to hear that. I usually turn that jealousy into motivation, at least that's good, but I'm going to change my attitude, feeling jelous is just petty.

But then you could analyze this in another way, in PUA terms. If I don't know what I did wrong I can't improve, and if I don't know what he did right how can't I assimilate that part of his behaviour. That's sort of why I wrote this in the first place, I'm not jealous of friends that gets laid because they are good and confident with girl, I get frustrated when I try to analyze this particular friend and it contradicts everything I have read about attraction etc. That's what really makes me wonder.

Don't focus on individuals in that regard. Focus on trends. With yourself and with the world you observe.

If you get turned down one time, its not a big deal. That girl may just be a bitch. She might be having a bad day. She might have just gotten some bad news. Or she may just have zero attraction for you and guys like you. It has nothing to do with you.

Conversely, if you are getting turned down across a wide variety of situations with a wide variety of girls, then there is probably something you can improve.

Similarly, if a single guy is inexplicably getting girls, I wouldn't pay too much attention to it. He's an anomaly and you'll waste too much time and mental energy trying to figure it out for no payoff. Guys like that exist. I don't know why. I suspect its biological - that there is literally something about the way they smell or their bone structure that indicates healthy reproduction genes, a good immune system, and high levels of testosterone.

Don't worry about it. It happens.

What you should do is notice the world around you. The guys that always have hot girls with them. The guys that seem to be able to pull girls into "their world" quickly. You'll notice several, undeniable trends emerging among guys that are good with girls. Are they universal? No. Are there no exceptions? No, your friend is living proof of that. But to best stack the deck in your favor, follow the trends, not the one-offs.