So , I've been living together with my girlfriend for 4 months and before that we were in a relationship for 3 months.

So i know her 7 months total.

In the beginning our sex live was amazing, even then I already noticed a higher drive in me but now the difference has become to big. She want's it 2-3 times a week while I want it 2-3 times a day, Which is pretty high.

I feel that we need to have sex more often because I want to get better, more experienced and of course because I like it a lot She is my first sexual partner.

Ok so the problem is that she says she doesn't even understand herself, she says that she is sexually atracted to me but she doesn't feel like having sex and then she starts crying saying it feels like an obligation ( ok maybe I pushed her to much a few months ago but once I noticed what I did wrong I immediatly adjusted myself) And I say but do you like to have sex ? And she says yes I do but ... it's just hard to really get her in the mood that often.

It's also a bit of a negative spiral cause I've started to think things like: she being not attracted to me, me being bad in bed , Etc. And with a low self esteem it's even more impossible to unleash her sexual beast that I know is inside.

Now I think I just got to work on my weak point, it's hard for me to last long in bed, especially when I've been building up so much steam. I ussually last about 10-15 minutes with little breaks in movement. But I think I HAVE to do it hard and long , cause when I let myself go her arousal goes through the roof but I have to stop after 5-10 seconds because I'm already there.

But it's hard to do if you only have sex every 3-4 days.

So that's an overview of what's going on it's hard to be really specific cause it seems like what is really going on is shrouded in fog to us.

Sincerely,
MS

Change her mood... Not her mind.

Work on turning her on and making her satisfied during sex and she will want it more often. If you make sure she is satisfied, she will make sure you are satisfied.

Keep it SIMPLE in bed. Especially if you and her are still new to this (which is fine... ull get better with time/experience

Also, dont force her or be so needy around her for sex. What turns a women on is when a man tells her "no" when she really wants to have it. Trust me she will be super hot for you and will ENJOY it so much more because she wants to have it. How do you feel when she tells you "i just dont wanna do it tonight"? You prob want it even more bc shes telling you you cant have something. Flip the game on her... and trust me the sex will be amazing... 4 you both.

**With the high sex drive thing. I have gone - and will go - weeks (17 days is my longest ) without sex or masturbation. Now this might sound insane to you, but I HARNESS my sex drive because it motivates me to do other things that are non-related to sex (ie goals of mine, going out more, being a better person, being creative, ect). **This is VERY attractive to girls and will help you pull many of them and or keep your current relationship.

I would suggest educating yourself on sex, sex drive, and its power. It is extremely powerful, if harnessed and used the correct way. If overused or abused, it can actually have negative effects (sex wont be as good for you because your use to porn, you get bored with it easier, ect.) There is tons of evidence online.


GL
Duke

Thanks for the excellent reaction!

It reinforces and adds to the ideas i've read and thought about

So some things I already suspected, especially the power of my sex drive, Do you by chance have any information sources on the subject?

Kind regards
MS

Quality not quantity.

i would actually turn down sex from my gf if she wanted it 2/3 times a day!

I guess i just need my old man slippers

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Update:

I now haven't had sex for 4-5 days , turned her down twice.

She doesn't seem to care much about it. Isn't getting any hornier and now I can't sleep because she got me all warmed up and then I turned her down with some willpower.

but I'm keeping up the celibacy, hoping it will turn out good.