ok this is a rough one for me. i have been dating this girl for 18 months and in the last couple months things have been going downhill and and the breakup is gonna happen sooner then later. now i don't wanna start a huge fight nor look like an ass to other girls in my community. also another curve ball in the situation is i was her first time.... so shes a little more attached to me then u would think. now obviously she'll be sad after the breakup i'm not tryign to avoid that but i don't want it to be devastating. plz this is a huge one for me and any suggestions would be appreciated!!!

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yours truly. fitzy

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Just let it die down. Keep putting meeting her off until she finally moves on.

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Venusian Arts
Virgin -> 60+ Girls in 6 Months!

easiest way is to not be available nearly as often as you were.....she'll get the hint then ya'll will talk about it and it'll be a mutual deal, or atleast she'll understand and move on

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"it's you against you, it's the paradox that drives us all"
-Survivor

My advice to you is the sooner, the better. When you both know it is going downhill and fast. You can try to save it, but then it is both up to you to work on it. First, if you two decide its worth saving then it will take work(relationships aren't easy by any means). Second, If you two both decide its not worth it or she is attached and youre not, as I say, "not feeling it anymore", then she deserves to know how you feel and where you are at now in this relationship.Honesty, would be the best policy here. If you two break up, you care andshe cares..be friends. Nothing more, nothing less. If you and/or her doesnt want that route, then try to make things easy on her. Have a mutual understanding...move on and do what you have to do.

Be an honest, decent person and tell her what the situation is. It's over. Try your very best to save her feelings whilst being careful to avoid giving her false hope. Don't continually blow her off to avoid having to do this. It's cowardly and extremely harsh.

i got almost the exact same situation on my hands, except its only been 6 months for me. I've been putting off ending it, which is definitley the wrong way to go, as querty said, but i've forced myself to do it tomorrow. If i learn anything useful, I'll let you know.

Goodluck with yours dude

ugh this is rough. lol i'm currently trying to do it and of course a fight formed and i still cant bring myself to say the words '' i don't think we shoudl see eachother anymore'' fuck guys this isnt easy.

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yours truly. fitzy

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why are you holding back, if you know its going nowhere with you two?

just after 18 months i can't mentaly let go. (sigh i know that sounds total afc but its tough) but the conversation ended in us taking a ''break'' eeeek i don't realy know where it goes from here i've never been in this situation before any suggestions???

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You know what, I think you just gave me the best idea so far..thank you Fitzy thank you. NO, you are not afc, that has no bearing on your relationship. In my opninion, if youre already in a relationship you dont have to play the game as long as you have. That you and her took things to another level beyond PUA. And now, things aren't quite what you want, please don't wait and linger around. It will be tougher for the both of you later. I would just tell her it is over and make sure the both of you have closure and move on the best way you know how. Then IF it came down to it, block any forms of communication.