Hi all, so i have been dating this girl for almost 2 years now and we have had a lot of fights in the past and sometimes we still do but then its taken care of the next day so you could say things are going smoothly right now

However here's the thing:

There's this guy who has been on the same school as my GF for 4 years, they never talked and now this year my GF went to a new school and by coincidence he was on the same school, for the first month or so they were in the same class and they shared phone numbers. (I guess for homework and stuff, and this guy has a girlfriend for 2 years as well so i didn't really thought much of it)

Now progressing over the moths, this guy has become a real creep in my opinion. My GF let me read her phone sometimes when we lying in bed and i see her conversations with this guy, first time i saw it he said things like honey, baby, hot girl + heart emoticons, and more flirty stuff like that. Now i know how guys act when they like someone (I am after all a guy myself) and after seeing the way he acted i could tell for 99% that this guy was into my GF (eventho he has a GF of 2 years himself..)

Now i told my GF this in a easy kinda way, not like it was a big deal or something i just told her like "seems like this guy is really into you huh" and she said "naah he's just making jokes!" and i said "we'll see haha!"

Then time goes by and about 1 month later i had this conversation with my GF on text

GF: OMG !! You were right..
Me: What?
GF: About *Thatguy* ..
Me: ?
GF: *Sends Picture*

And the picture was a picture of a conversation she had with that guy containing this

Guy: And how are you?
GF: Im fine, just having some back problems but nothing else really
Guy: Oooh you want me to massage you? With a happy ending? ^^
GF: Haha yeah ill ask my boyfriend to do that for me!


So basically she kinda just told him off and i like that but still is this guy creepy or what..

Now today she was with me again and again we were lying in bed looking at her phone basically trolling a friend of mine and *ThatGuy* begins to talk to her, she told me to read it and i saw something interesting and i said "Do you mind if i read all of this conversation?" Maybe a beta move.. But i just couldn't resist asking -_- ... She said it was no problem so i did

What i saw was him sending a picture of him lying in bed with no shirt on in his underwear with a drawed picture of a penis on his underpants, then i saw another picture he send, it was his head with a painting of my GF next to him with her tits out and WTF?!

Also he said these things

"Love you"
"Ur Horny"
"U are hot"
"U are prettier than my GF"

etc.
etc.

The list goes on and on but you get my point... Now i must say everytime this guy said some creepy shit like that my GF gave no positive response to him whatsoever so i am happy about that, its just the fact that this guy BOTHERS ME SO MUCH and i would like some advice on how to deal with these kind of people

Thanks in advance!

Haha that is creepy as hell.
Anyways, this is your gf's problem to deal with. The "baby stuff" and pics should have been enough for her to go from polite to just telling him to leave her alone. Doesn't sound like she's into him, but why is she not just telling him to stop and leave her be? The only time you should get involved with some guy hitting/creeping or stalking your gf is when she has already made it clear to the guy to stop but he won't.

The guy is just trying to get some spare ass. Obviously he views your girl as superior to his girl. That or he just has a complex where every girl he wants is just an object to conquer. I can attest to this, because I used to be that guy.

The great thing is that your girl is transparent about it all. Reward her good behavior. Congrats. Your girl is one hot piece of ass, she brings it home to you every night, and brings evidence that you landed a hotty.

It's a given that when you are of high value, your woman should be of high value and desired by many others. However, it's completely appropriate to acknowledge that you expect her to have admirers, but that you also expect her to not need those admirers and to rid herself of them in a polite and effective fashion.

Agreed. Be more worried if she didn't show you and was messaging him secretly.

I love that the guy couldn't just take the pictures. He had to hold a sign that says, "You are hotter than my gf." Being brazen: you're doing it right!

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

This can be a kind of a tricky situation. If it is just fun and she is completely open with it, then it should be no problem. She should take care of it herself it bothers you. If it does bother you, then just find a cool way to tell her to take care of it.

My advice, from experience, is it is WAY better if you also have a bunch of girls that you openly flirt with in front of your girl. She needs to know that you can jump ship at any time if she gets out of hand. If it turns out that she cheats and you're not okay with that, then you can put her out and not be worried.

There's more chance of me pulling Megan Fox then him pulling your gf i assure you

I'd just laugh him off, you can use him to make yourself even more alpha in her eyes and if he starts to bore you then just post the pics he's sending to a lampost outside his gf's house

I know this is a kind of an old topic, but I thought it was the right topic to ask in.

So PUA's, is violence ever an option?
Can't you just find this dude and warn him, and if he gets fly then floor him? I know this isn't an option for everyone, but if you're Alpha, you're acting like you aren't afraid of conflict so shouldn't you be able to back it up?
I realise this probably isn't the right path in this situation, but is it ever?

Violence is always an option, but is it the best approach? First, if you are Alpha you aren't acting at all. Being Alpha has little to do with conflict. Many men, who would be considered Alpha in a pre-civilized society, are simply very aggressive and physically dominate. In the animal world aggression, size, and intelligence are what define being the most dominate male. Winning physical challenges was the path to the top of the heap. It makes sense that people confuse what it means to be Alpha in our society with this, because often physically domineering guys who are aggressive tend to dominate meetings, discussions, and attract girls. So being able to completely crush some guy who bothers you seems in line with that idea.

However, if you read these forums you can see that in reality this behavior is not really what being Alpha is about in the PUA sense. First, if you beat the shit out of some guy you may end up in jail or fined, both not very fun. Second, even if you are bigger the guy may know some form of martial arts and you end up on the floor, third, things don't always go well in a fight and you might end up very damaged. All of these things don't mean that you should be scared of those alternatives, but just points to consider.

I'd say that violence is sometimes necessary in defending yourself or if someone seems that they might become violent or threatening. In the context of this post it has much more to do with the girl then going after a guy. If a girl allows this behavior it is an issue with her and better to either improve your value in her eyes or drop her.