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I'm not sure where to post this but since it is one of my anxieties I figure this forum will be as good as any.
I hate confrontations with anyone especially other males. I have been in confrontations recently but I just feel like I've been made a fool. Now I have somewhat deliberately started to avoid them, and it makes me feel bad. I feel like I am not socially calibrated to know how to react, besides acting on my emotions. I am not a menacing dude, I'm 5'5, don't know any martial arts, and never been in a fight; but dont get me wrong I am willing to fight someone if pushed to that extreme but I'd rather not.
What should be done in situations like this? I find it important to include what they look like to make each scenario more realistic.
1. You're at a busy gas station and your patiently waiting for a pump when some asshole comes in and steals it? (he looks pretty buff) How do you handle this?
Ignore him. Not that I'm scared (I don't fear anybody generally), but one picks his battles.
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2. You're playing poker and a drunk idiot(fat) at your table starts taunting you, saying that he's going to take your chips and calls you a bitch. How do you handle this?
Tell him "is there a problem?" I don't let others ruffle unnecessarily.
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3. You're playing in a soccer game and it is the second time this player fouls you hard, you get up infuriated with the referee for not booking him. When you jog back to play this player says, "stop complaining fa***t"(relatively same build as you). How do you handle this?
Move on. Whilst the laws of football may say one thing, referees are human and have their own interpretation of things. I may kick him or hit him, but the ref may genuinely not seen his challenge/tackle. Besides, players say lots of things to wind opponents up, it's part of the game.
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I just want to get a perspective from others and possibly read or practice material that would make me fear confrontation less. I think this is what makes me self-conscious when I meet new people, I'm afraid of confrontations and being bullied. F that how do I get over it?
I would gladly like to hear suggestions.
I don't fear confrontation, but I don't always respond with force. Force begets force, and frankly from a legal context it's not wise. If somebody verbally insults you and you hit them, YOU are going down legally, not him. If anything, I will verbally insult the other party until he hits me. That way, I can say in any court that I did nothing wrong and he cannot control himself lol..
