You joined this community because you believe in it.

There are others out there who have gone in your shoes. The only difference is that they made a decision to make themselves better.

I, for one, have been at my lowest point when I was twenty.

You want to be better and that's the same reason you started a thread in the first place.

Go ahead and do something about it.

It will soon pass.

Be good to yourself.

I've memorized one of Neil Strauss's quote from his book, "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists". Hey says,

"In order to excel at anything, there are always hurdles, obstacles, or challenges one must get past. It's what bodybuilders call the pain period. Those who push themselves, and are willing to face pain, exhaustion, humiliation, rejection, or worse, are the ones who become champions. The rest are left on the sidelines."

Everyone feels the pain first; the pleasure comes much later. Fall 100 times, rise 101 times - it's what naturally makes people stronger. If people can't feel the burn, they don't deserve to be doused with water. Lock yourself out of the house and practice crawling out of your shell by approaching anyone until LONELINESS BECOMES YOUR BITCH!!!

Good luck, bro.

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"I've learned it's important not to limit yourself. You can do whatever you really love to do, no matter what it is." - Ryan Gosling

I will say up front I am a 38 year old virgin.

From the age of 7 to 16 during school and college I had very little in the way of friends. I was bullied constantly and I was suicidal at 16.

After finishing school, I decided to concentrate on ME and my self-improvement. I decided that life would be worth living but I knew it would take a long time sort myself out. So when it came to going to college I made the very conscious and deliberate decision not have friends because I couldn't trust anyone and I stopped associating myself with the kids who I was at secondary school with (because some of them went to the same college).

When I finished college and went to university I was chronically shy. This was 1994. In my second year of university I ended up sharing a house with some guys who I am still friends with and we chat once a week, almost twenty years later. In the late 90s, I started working in a supermarket and I am still in regular contact with some friends I met through that.

But when it came to socialising with strangers or going somewhere and meeting a group of individuals I had not met before was difficult but I was up for the challenge because I felt I was comfortable to do it but that has only been in the last 6 months.

I said that my self-improvement started at 16 and I feel it is only now that I am beginning to feel comfortable in my own skin. Up until now, the relationship side hasn't really bugged me too much (say compared to ten year ago) and I feel more comfortable now with the idea that I've never had a girlfriend than I've ever done before. I am saying I am happy single.

What I suggest you do is go to http://www.meetup.com and join a local group. It doesnt matter the age group. You just need to get yourself out of your comfort zone. As you get more used to expanding your zone, you can push your boundaries a bit more.

Life can be crazy sometimes but it is what you make it so the best advice I can suggest is: JUST BE YOU. Don't feel you need to live up to other people's or society's expectations.

Hey bro! Sry to hear that you are feeling down and depressed. I have been down that same road few years back and I know it's very hard, but trust me when I tell you that you can get rid of those negative thoughts and start to enjoy life and yourself.

It's very good that you have started talking to a professional and shared your thoughts and feelings.

Few things that helped me to get through my most deepest, were that I wrote down my own bucketlist. I wrote down all the things that I wanted to do before I die (things like I wanted to learn to speak spanish and wanted to jump a bungee jump) and then I just tried to do 1-2 of those things every year (and still do).

Also you should start some hobby. Anything that you have always wanted to do, learn to play guitar, join that local football club or whatever you have been thinking you'd like to learn/do. That way you have something to wait every week and you'll also start feel more energetic. I know it is hard to get yourself do anything when you are depressed, but the hardest part (at least for me) was to get up from your chair. When you are at it, it is easier.

And don't bother your mind about the ladies just now. When you start to do things you like and start to enjoy life, the ladies will come

Keep us posted how you are feeling.

blueindian,

I have been through way worse then U. I know exactly how you feel. DO NOT END YOUR LIFE!!! Here's my philosophy on suicide. You don't know whats on the other side. I could be better, it could be worse, or it could be nothing that all and you just cease to exist but you'll never know. Since you are here on this Earth (hopefully still!!) you might as well stick around to see what kind of experiences you can have because the fun in life is just living it.

Since you are in such a depressed state you have no where to go but up an you can appreciate positive experiences more then other ppl can because you have been deprived of them. Keep hope. This community has given me hope that I can not only be successful with women but with everyday ppl and actually have strong intimate relationships within a network of ppl one day.

DON'T GIVE UP HOPE!!!

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