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Okay, So here is the situation. I know many of you arnt going to be to fond of hearing me complain about not being able to decide between two girls but here goes.
Girl #1 - Just met her in January. We started hooking by our second time meeting. We have slept together more then half a dozen times, basically each time we meet up we end up having sex at the end of the night. She is gorgeous, the type where every time Im sleeping with her I just focus on how out of my league she is. I have just taken a two week trip with the bros to travel around (road trips and such) while leaving girl #1 says she is not testing me but I am able to hookup with another girl "if I felt the need". I have just made out with a few girls at a bar but havent had sex with any.
Girl #2 - We hooked up at the same party that I met girl #1. We have always been really flirty. She is that half asian really exotic hot. Basically I have to drop something off to her house because her friend asked me to as a favor. Girl #2 says that when I come over I am able to spend the night....even though her house is only 15 min from mine at most. I have insider reports that she is down.
The Twist is that Girl #1 and Girl #2 are best friends. Also Girl #1 is down for a threesome. My plan is to hookup with girl #2 and when girl #1 hears about it try to setup a threesome. I am "technically" not in a relationship with #1........when is the line that it becomes a relationship?
Shoot me some advice, any ideas as to how I should proceed. I have till tomorrow night.....
Well, it's technically your words. In reality, once you've slept with a girl you begin a relationship. Sex is the bond that promotes the chemical bonding effect. Even if you don't think you want it, she will think she will which is why FWB relationship never usually work. Eventually one person is going to want an exclusive relationship. Having said that, if all you want is some kind of kinky sex, your relationship with girl #1 won't last very long depending on what terms she wants it to be. Don't ever think that you're using her for sex, for which that she is ALSO USING YOU for her own sexual kinky needs. A user using another user so to speak. Doing this defy the logic of a true loving relationship. There is no love in this, just LUST and primal sexual urge instincts which will eventually wear off!
If you wish to develop a more involved loving healthy relationship with girl #2 and she is more wholesome and genuine interested in you as a person rather than you as a person who is only using her for sex and sex is her job to make you happy, then a relationship or rather a healthy one will exist.
Don't fantasize those porn videos about girls that like threesomes and can maintain a healthy relationship. Few can, but eventually jealousy and dominance issues will creep up later in your relationship which will be challenging to deal with.
If kinky dominance sex is what you are looking for, stay in an open relationship. Either way, once sex occurs you are in a relationship.