| If she is giving you the "I'm not into you anymore vibe" I't because your confidence level has dropped, your no longer challenging, she is sensing Neediness!
So the question is: What is it really that makes a man so confident and independent that even if he is extremely attracted to a woman he can use his brain too. And again what makes a man so weak that even when he understands that the girl is not worthy of his attention and doesn't even like him, again shows up and feels the urge to ask her attention?
I think that a lot of it comes down to perception and self validation..Let me explain....
If you start off from the mental place that you are an amazing guy, and that you don’t need a partner (or anyone else for that matter) to validate you, then you are on the right track. The woman you become attracted to becomes important for you, but not necessarily 'everything'. You don’t depend on her to make you feel important, or like a man, or even loved, because those things are already part of you. Therefore as a man you would still be capable of rational thought, and capable too of knowing that your relationship MAY come to an end, but you know that wouldn't be the end of the world, because you are a slick enough person to find someone else worthy of your affection.
Without those core beliefs and values, it is easy for a man to become dependent on his relationships as a way of making him feel loved/valued/cared for/respected etc. And so, even if the woman is treating him badly, he may stay around because he feels that his current relationship is the only way he can get those things. He may also be scared of dating again, and/or scared of someone ELSE hurting him (better the devil you know and all that). OR, it may even be the case that he is simply obsessed with the girl, and this is never a healthy place to conduct a relationship!
I would say the biggest thing that gives confidence is having a purpose/direction that's more important than the relationship. If you know where you're going and what your highest priority is, the relationship can never take over.
Honestly, I find it's much easier to be a good partner when your partner is NOT your highest priority. When you're in control of yourself, you can see how your partner feels and what they like more objectively-and that allows you to treat them as an individual, instead of just your girlfriend/wife etc.
Some people cite "The feeling that he can get another girl" as what makes a man that confident, but that doesn't resonate with me at all. What makes me confident is knowing that I have something I want even more than any relationship with another individual.
And another point worthy of notice, is that the kind of people who act this way, demanding attention from the girl, are mostly the ones who overreact to negative comments from other people. The needy types are occasionally the ones who try their best to prove they are worthy to other people. They want to hear applaud and approval and they overreact to negative remarks about themselves.
A needy man is deeply afraid that what he has to give is not enough (or that he is not worthy).
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