Been a while since I've posted on this forum, but I've decided to seek assistance for the latest day-two coming up on Thursday night. Especially since I don't bang on dates very often. Basically, I met a single mother a few weeks ago. She was in a group of cougars, including her 18 year old daughter. She's not a turbo, but still in decent shape and there was definitely some chemistry happening between us. I got a semi-boner even though we didn't makeout (because her daughter was there), so you could say I was pretty "clear in my intent", the way I was talking and touching her around the hips, etc.

So we texted a bit, I just called her up tonight, and organised to meet at a cafe pretty close to where she lives. Which happens to be pretty far from me... probably almost an hours drive. It seems like a textbook chance to pull to her place, as long as I don't say anything stupid and mess it up. Surely she's already DTF... why else would I have suggested meeting close to her place? I'm planning to escalate quickly and makeout at the bar, but does anyone have tips for smoothly pulling to her house? Or would she just comply with "Let's head over to your place for a bit"? I assume some other users here have been in a similar situation.

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Anyone?

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Be a gentleman and tell her you will pick her up at her place, so you can walk/go to the cafe together (women still like you to be a gentleman).

Be early (tell her you weren't stuck in traffic this time). If she's not ready yet she will/has to invite you in (she can't leave you standing outside) and ask her to show you her place. If she is ready when you arrive to pick her up, you can still ask her to show you her place. One thing will lead to another if you play it right and you don't have to go out to the cafe at all.

Interesting. But wont that seem a bit strange, since she lives so close to the place we're meeting?

Also, isn't it better to increase the sexual tension first before being in the potential "sex location", just to be on the safe side?

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Mrjoy has a good point.

It always feels weird or special for the girl when she first take a guy home. You just have to work so that when you get there after coffee, its not the first time.

So, arrive 10 mins early to pick her up, find a way to get into the house (Id bring a bottle of white wine or champagne and pretend that it has to be chilled, therefore she'll let you in the kitchen and you can ask for a tour from there : but that might be too forward, Im sure you can find a way though).

Anyway, when you're in, shes probably gonna make you wait until she gets ready (never seen a woman being ready before time and never will).
So meanwhile, you drop your stuff on the table : cell phone, keys, wallet. When its time to go YOU FORGET ONE OF THESE! Not the keys cause you need them to drive, so either the phone or the wallet (Id forget the wallet so that she pays for the drink).

When you get ready to leave the coffee place, you ask for the bill and be like : wtf, where is my wallet, I must have forgot it (make sure to have 20 bucks on your pocket in case she doesnt have money). And then you go like : man, I dropped it at your house, must still be there).


AND YOU ARE IN

It wont be too akward for her to bring you back in since you've been there already.

The day-two didn't happen last night. I texted her when I was getting ready to leave home, and here's what ensued. Let's just say, things are still good between us, but I'm glad I checked beforehand!


Me: Leaving home now, I think it will take me about 50 mins to get there. Also, due to the distance and weather tonight, I might as well come to your house, where we can cuddle up and stay warm. Instead of meeting at the cafe first.

Her: No soz can't come here kids are here!

Me: Why does it matter if your kids are there?

Her: I'm not bringing strangers in to meet the kids straight away sorry!

Me: Okay, I understand. Can we change the meeting place? For example, (bar) on (street). Which is roughly equal distance between us.

Her: No soz Chris I can't afford the petrol, I'm not feeling that well either. . I've got a really bad head ache!

Me: Ah, bad timing with the headache. We'll have to make it another time then. Will there be any time when your kids aren't home?

Her: No they are here most of the time, soz

Her: Hmmm don't know :/

Her: Yeah crap time with the headache

Me: Don't worry, I'm sure we'll get there eventually

Her: It's not really good weather either! catch ya!!


Basically, I think there's still potential but it's mostly a logistical issue now. She can't come to my house (live with parents), I can't go to hers, so I have to figure out another way.

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I hope I am wrong, but it seems to me that it's not only a logistical problem.It looks like she is also having second thoughts. Although I can understand that she doesn't want to introduce you to her kids straight away, her other excuses seem a bit lame to me (can't afford the petrol, headache, bad weather). If she was really into you she would have found a way to deal with these "problems". I also do not like that she didn't text you she was having a headache or didn't like the weather. What would have happend if you had not texted her before leaving the house? You would have driven 50 minutes only to hear she is not going out with you.

If you still want to meet her anyway I would try to set up a meeting one more time (maybe you're lucky and her kids aren't home). Call or text her in a week or so. If it doesn’t work out forget about her and go on. It's almost an hours drive to meet her and the chances you will get more than a cup of coffee look very slim at the moment. I would not recommend carsex and if she really can't afford the petrol, a hotel room will be out of the question

I'm certain you will find other fish in a more nearby sea.

Good luck!

Thanks for the feedback. I was also reading between the lines, and thought she might have lost too much interest, but as long as we're still in contact I'm going to keeping pushing forward. Shame she lives so damn far away... since most people I meet live much closer, in the metro area of my city. Next time I will only suggest she meets me somewhere close to where I live, and then my only hope is getting her turned on, bringing out the adventurous self and going to a lookout in the hills (where I have sealed the deal numerous times in the past).

But of course, I'm still following up with many other contacts in the meantime. I just need to start converting more of them, since they usually go nowhere and end up flaking. But that's a different issue.

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