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I like the idea of this but I am still weary. I have read some articles and books where some guys dont neg at all, but the first book I read says you have too (The Game / Mystery Method). I really want to work on my day game and I notice that almost all of the guys with day game never neg - or at least from the video's I have seen. Im not saying im an expert but I like the direct approach and just going for it. I used to do this a lot when I was younger. They approach with a compliment almost always. I kind of like this approach. I feel like im just being mean with a neg and that really isnt in my nature. (Probably why I got cheated on so many times....supplicating).
A few points on this. A neg isn't suppose to be an insult so much is it is a back handed compliment. You are using these to "tease" not to be mean so much. There are some negs out there that are just plain mean though so a lot of it is in what you say and how you say it.
That being said...Mystery Method and the Game are not the biblical commandments of pickup by any stretch of the imagination. I practiced Mystery Method for years and was very very good at doing it by the book. I also learned that many of his "rules" for getting the girl could be bent or broken too. I won't get into all of them but suffice it to say Negging is not a requirement to get a girl.
HOWEVER, I am a firm believer that doing things during the interactions with women to create a push/pull type of attraction such as teasing are good for creating that "chase" within her. Things like giving her a kiss and then maybe hitting her lightly on the arm and calling her a punk. Doing things that create that tension between you are great to use. They could be in the form of negs but they don't have to be.
The other idea with Negs was that her S&R value according to Mystery is higher than yours and you have to bring her down a few notches. In my experience with Mystery Method I usually only needed one neg or two in most cases. Some really high and mighty on themselves type of girls I might use 3, then again I usually avoid this type cause they aren't worth it.
The whole idea of her value being more than yours is bullshit. No one person is valued higher than another...truly.
Okay now that we've gone over what negs are, and what they are used for. Getting back to your ideas. For Day Game direct approaches work very well. Women are in a hurry and doing their errands during the day, or on breaks from work. They may have very REAL time constraints, and the direct approach will work better... They don't have 15 minutes to go over "Who Lies More...." right?
Finally, opening with compliments are fine. Now there are a lot of people that do this. The important thing is if you are going to do this you be genuine with what you say and really mean the compliment. Don't just tell her something generic just for the sake of opening her. If you really mean the compliment you are giving her then it works very well.
You are on the right track. Don't take everything you read as "THE GOSPEL" and keep asking questions.
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