| seems to me you sort of were trying to overgame a bit man, comes off a tad approval seeking and needy, just need to calm yourself down and relax, every thing that she hears from you doesn't have to be emotionally stimulating or a routine of some sort, you know, just a routine here, a routine there, sprinkle of this, sprinkle of that, to keep her from getting bored, then more of an emphasis on moving towards some form of investment rather then just breaking rapport on her in every text you send, it is ok to just be normal and invite her out, tease her a bit here and there, say a nice or funny thing here or there, but every thing you say doesn't have to rip on her or be kissing her ass or comedic gold, just chill a bit
also actually listen to what the girl is saying and use her feedback for her to invest in you, she takes the bait into your role play and you keep breaking the rapport and working her out of the roleplay, might as well just further the roll play, you don't have to worry about dis-agreeing with her all the time and shit to keep the frame, as long as she is in the roll play you have set the frame, but is that what you want?, or is that just some shit you are doing because you are not sure of what you want, and all you are trying to accomplish is to impress her and find out what she wants?
if the girl is compliant and investing, don't break rapport, if she seems to be losing interest in the frame (things are getting too comfortable), or she is breaking rapport on you, then pull out some rapport breaks and you can tease her, but when she is compliant and buying into your frame, you should be rewarding rather then punishing, have her relate going along with what you want to her getting positive reinforcement rather then negative
examples
ME: Hey HB9! Wanna help me rob a bank?
HB9: Hey 10"! Yeah, why not?
ME: Awesome! You wanna drive or shoot?
here you baited her to comply, she hooked, then you qualified her, then you baited her again
that was a good example of you properly using positive reinforcement to get further investment from her
HB9: I'm more of a shooter, so I wanna shoot.
ME: Seriously, I need an assistant! Hmm, how about you just drive and you let me do the shooting..
here she takes the bait again, but this time you dis-qualified her and broke the rapport, no reason to do this
could have just re-qualified her, if you want you can dis-qualify after your qualifer just like mystery method
''Ohh you're one of those bad ass shooter girls, that's pretty hot, guess I better stay away from you''
~qualify~disqualify
or
''Ohh I see you're one of those adventurous girls, cool I like that''
~qualify
if you read through your text log you will notice the pattern, she complies, you punish, over and over you broke rapport, then she eventually just lost interest in investing into an interaction with you, there was just nothing in it for her to gain unless she felt like having a little frame war, but that was the thing, she was buying into your frame the whole time and compliant, no need to break rapport at all
anyways, it is not the big of a deal, try to use texting as more of a way to get meetups, then to build rapport, make your face time in person count, so she actually has some motivation to meet you, still stay in contact, and keep your self familiar with her, just don't use the phone as your primary avenue to build rapport, and don't contact girls out of neediness, contact them for a reason, use the phone just as a bridge to continue the interaction in person and maintain a level of investment (use common sense with this, you want her texting you, not the other way around, less is more, but nothing at all is too extreme, find a middleground), or you may find yourself stuck with a bunch of texting buddies that never want to hang out
GOOD LUCK
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