Need your advice guys.

About six months back I end up kissing this 9HB in a London club (Fabric) but she was leaving for NZ the next day. Kept in touch with her via email. A couple months back she tells me she'll be in the UK and that we should hook up.

Sounds good right? Wrong!

So the only way to get in touch with her is via her London-based best-friend (also a Kiwi) whom I've kept kept friendly with. For a few weeks she wouldn't reply to my sms or pick up my calls. I pretty much gave up until I get an sms from her asking to meet up that very night. Of course I didn't jump through that hoop.

Sadly other attempts to meet up they cancel for one reason or another. Again I wrote this one off.

Then I get a Happy New Year sms from the 9HB herself . So now I need not go via her friend.

What next? I want to hook up with her this weekend but not sure if it better to phone or sms. Also how to show interest without being too keen? This may sound dumbass but should I invite her best-friend too?

Your thoughts please.

BTW - any of you guys have the same prob as me? I'm not bad with scoring when I first meet the girl but absolutely crap with the asking-out.

Cheers,
HouseDog

I'm new to this as well, so take my advice with a grain of salt (i.e. dont do it unless someone else says its a good idea) Personally I would write her off completely, not respond to any txt messages from her friend's phone, and wait until you see that number Calling you before you answer. Seem completely disinterested in the girl. Think about how she is acting, she's using the ball of sting method against you. With this one it seems like she's going to be the one to say when you two meet again, so if she text's you saying shes going to this club later that night, tell her maybe you'll make it there, but then don't show. You need to get back in the driver's seat with this one, and right now it looks like she is taking you for a ride. Keep blowing her off until you can tell that your in complete control of the situation. I dont see any reason why you should try to see her this weekend. In fact, go out of your way Not to see her this weekend.
Alpine

This was your fatal flaw, the SMS or phone cal dilemma is meaningless compared to this. Just because you don't want to jump through a hoop doesn't mean that you throw away an opportunity to see the woman.

Imagine the value you gain compared by seeing her and gaming her compared to the lost value of jumping through a hoop?

That being said, you don't want to be a dancing monkey, so make her jump through a hoop first. e.g you could have told her "Well that's not really enough warning... why don't you swing past my place and we'll go somewhere from here?"

Here you are agreeing to her request but you are still keeping her within your frame.

Good luck!