Greetings,
(If You dont wanna read the entire story, just move on to the thick text I marked)
I wanna start off by introducing myself so You get a better overview about me as a person.
I've started reading PUA-related books & forums for a good 8 months now and I've gotta admit it has definatly changed my life in a good way.
As personality, I'm extremely confident, have no fears and when it comes down to socializing, i'd give myself a good 7/10, my specialities are opening, good eye contact, a nice tone and I can manage to adapt myself, only thing I truely hate is my incapability of things such as cold reading, keeping the convo going, and often get stuck if the person I talk to is shy or doesn't have anything in common.
My energie level is always good, after a few good minutes I know at what level I should be communicating, I've gotten alot of compliments for this from people I've just met.
I'm also a driven person with alot of passion, I'm extremely adventerous and I love to do things that require balls to do.
When it comes to appearance, I consider myself good looking, I do have to work on my body but that's what I'm doing right now.
Sorry for the wall-of-text about myself, I tend to give out alot of information about subjects, often to much I guess
Anyway,
I've recently gone to Spain and try out some things there because I know people would be more loosend up then where I live, and it worked out great, used a few techniques and mostly been using natural talk instead of pre-programmed pick-up lines. Got alot of number closes, made alot of new contacts and k-closed a few girls.
The big issue I have is that the place I live in (Belgium) is often packed with alot of anti-social people. For example, girls go out, dressed up nicely, hoping to meet the white prince, but are often extremely hard to communicate with.. they are very shy, are very afraid of people they do not know, and have a huge bitch shield up regardless of how You are or look, so in order to break this, You've either gotta make sure they approach You, or You need to be funny and nice, direct openers like '' I couldn't keep my eyes of you '' or anything like that does not work on 80% of the girls cause they are like the fuck?
Asked my friends about this matter and they all said, if any kind of guy comes to them with this kind of opening, they always walk away.
Back to the main-story.
So all this combined makes day-gaming very hard, especially cause this is more often the ''time window'' where girls are not looking for social contacts.
I've recently started going to college again (I'm 21), and I'm in a mixed class of people between 18 - 40 (Adult college). There's alot of pretty girls here, to my surprise also very talkative and social, but it's just good enough for being friend-zoned so I'm careful with this when it comes to girls I wanna get to know better.
When I started this course I decided to not get involved with PUA-related stuff cause I know for myself I will just get to much into it and maybe lose my focus on what I'm doing.
But...
We got into this class where we were split in groups of 8 and I was being put together with a HB8.5, Goddamn.. She's very very hawt. We were told to talk about our past and some things related with the course so I took the initiative to start off (Good DHV), Everything went pretty smooth and this girl kept keeping eye-contact with me, so I took the opportunity to look at her most of the time.
Once She was up, I made a few jokes here and there and she laughed about it, smiling and she only kept eye-contact with me during her talk.
I wasn't really thinking of hitting on her or anything but after I found out we were in the same class for the rest of the year, I couldn't stop but thinking about getting to know her better etc... It did feel like I became to interested in her and something in me got blocked to just talk to her and become aknowledged by her, Mostly afraid of getting friend-zoned and flirting on school is definatly not the best thing to do here.
Afterwards in class I'd look in her direction ''accidently'' and always noticed her looking at me, i'm not gonna jump to any conclussion saying ''Yeah, she's definatly interested'' but I know for a fact that there's more going on then just ''woops, I accidently looked at you 20 times''.
I still decided not to talk to her because I wanted to make sure I did the right approach but I'm glad I gave her a good impression and showed interest in the conversation we had before.
One thing that is going to be a hinderness is that she started talking to another guy in class who I also consider good looking, allthough I watched her body-language and everything, there were no clear IoI's that showed interest beside looking at him as a new friend. This might change though, so I've gotta make sure to get in touch with her soonish.
My question though is, How exactly do You build ''Sexual interest'' or communicate with someone to not become another friend in college.
Do You talk alot with the person and try getting her number and text her?
Do You not talk alot with her, but in these convo's show her interest and keep it straight-forward and simple?
Or what approach should I take?
Bare in mind that I'm not looking for openers or whatever but just a way to communicate with her.
Keep in the mind that the girl is very energetic and has alot of confidence, pretty much like me.
CHAT
