that is the problem, social status exists and is a factor, it is the reason why when guys get famous they all of a sudden can do better with women, that is why improving your lifestyle overall is an attractive thing to do, that is why alot of women will show interest in you if you roll up to the club in a ferrari instead of a pinto, social status matters, material possessions and fame are the proof that you possess status and respect, and as for obama and some random joe, people with natural leadership qualities will naturally fall into leadership rolls, being physically intimidating and being a leader are not the same thing, there are two ways to gain respect in my opinion, one way is fear, and the other is admiration, and we are human not animals, when dealing with humans it is more likely for someone to gain high status through intelligence and their ability to interact with people and have a wide network of support, rather then be the biggest brute swinging ufc gloves around killing all the men in their path who appose them

and once again, most leaders in the world are leaders because they are leaders, the alpha is the leader by definition regardless of the way the person earned their respect among their peers

Well said, I guess we are just looking at it two different ways. I agree with a lot of what you said. However as far as the Obama and the regular joe. I feel once survival instinct set in. Obama would be the follower. My point is, when it comes to picking up. The Alpha is the dominant one. I know plenty of Alpha males, that go to a social gathering with people that have very high status, yet they tend to take over the room. They dictate the energy and pace of all the others. I have seen this many many times. I have also personally done this. I have some very wealthy friends that are in position of power through work. But when we hang out, I usually dictate everything. They may be Alpha at work but they are not when out with me. Do you get what I am saying?

Hey There, I am glad to see you are back at it. life is too short to not enjoy yourself. People seem to think older people should just sit at home and read or golf.

I think it is important to realize you are in a better situation then most when it comes to meeting and being intimate with women. There is far less games when it comes to older people. Sure a woman may still want to be courted, but they don't have time for BS. So no need to play any games. People are wiser as they get older, and tend not to have time for anything but the truth. Especially when it comes to dating. I say, be aggressive, speak your mind always. Be sexually open. If you want to do a woman right when you meet her, tell her. Odds are she will be good to go, if not she will respect your honesty and dictate her own pace.

As for your inner thoughts, be open about them too. Tell the woman your thoughts, exactly as they come. Women your age or close to it, should already have seen a lot of the world and the people in it. They already know how men are. They will understand and appreciate the honesty. They are not gonna judge you like a 25 yr old women would. So no need for anxiety. If you speak your mind and show your inner vulnerabilities, they will no longer be an issue. Usually anxiety when it comes to dating is based on " what the woman may think of you" or "what other observers will think" I am sure by now you know that really doesn't matter. If a woman doesn't think well of you, just move on. There is millions of single older woman just dying for attention, especially from a fit man your age. Your market is much bigger then one would think. There is not as much competition as a lot of men in their 50's are so set in their ways, if they are not getting laid on the reg, they accept it. Or they don't have it in them anymore to chase women.

The fact that you do have it in you, makes you unique and a rarity. Most women that are single at around your age, are dying to date. They tend to have forgotten that they can be desired.

I say, show them they are desirable, remind them of their youth. Compliment a lot, show your sexuality. Showing desire to a woman that feels as though she is well past her prime will only make her feel great.

If you eliminate your inner thoughts by making them outer thoughts. These issues you are having should be gone and the next steps can be dictated by you both rather then haunting your mind.

Good luck my friend.

TY! SA all good rock solid advice! but to be honest, I have not found many my age I'm attracted to.

The one I am going to spend the weekend with is 12 years my junior (hot size 5 Italian)

Just lately, I seem to be miss reading the close signal, from some of the younger women, I have learned .... if you miss that one the 1st time ... it is rare you will get the second chance.

I straight up think, if it not possible when that comes about, instead of missing it. Telling her "I would so love to fuck right now, but I have to ...bla bla bla.. so meet me here tomorrow!" what do you think?

@ Heywood

Find the happy median, women in there 40's are the same as women in their 50's. They still desire to be desired as they were when they were 25. Express your interest often you dont have to come right out and say you want to fuck them but you can imply it within your conversations.

As for the letting your inner thoughts out, I stand firm on that. Women will appreciate it and since you are still dealing with 40+ it's a great thing to be as open as possible.

@ kasabi : Isnt this a a bad way to deal with AMOG´s?

That might work for some pussie guys, but a real AMOG will fuckin punch you in the face after bringing such a line, really.
Its a great way if you want to get beaten up after having a nice time in a club

1. Address the girl, "Hey, do you know this guy?" - the answer is no.
2. Address the guy, "The lady doesn't know you and I don't know you. Do you have anything to say to us?"
3. Let the guy talk.
4. "Are you done? We're busy. Thanks."

A guy pretty similar to you once told me that he wouldn't let me talk to a pair of ladies that he came to the bar with:

1. Ask the ladies, "Is this your brother? Uncle?" - The answer is no. . . giggling.
2. Address the guy: Who I choose to talk to is my choice. Who the ladies talk to is theirs. Who you choose to talk to is your choice. Do you have anything more to say?"
3. Silence.
4. "We're busy, thanks."

Body language is essential for initial approaches. If you don't know a lot about it, there is some very good books out the for reading others or directing your body language.

Ideally, the loud music can help as you can get closer to her to talk. Just be careful not to yell in her ear. Get close and face her straight on. But while you are talking to her, pay attention to her body language, if she is giving you signs of interest. Try for the quick escape. You can say stuff like, its too loud in here to talk. I find you very intriguing, lets get out of here and find somewhere not as loud so we can talk. If she is willing to leave it's a sign of interest and trust. Good odd's to seal the deal. If she's not willing to leave right then and there. Get her digit's tell her you will text. If it's simply too loud to talk. Try to engage her with your body language, dance with her. if it starts to run a little dry from lack of conversation. Tell her you have to go find your friends and you will be back. But tell her to watch her phone as you will be texting her. Then simply go away, but text her. Work your game through the text, you still maybe able to hook up with her when she is leaving.e) or after her friends are home....etc etc. ( be sexual in your texts, women tend to be more open with strangers when they are not face to fac

Keep in contact, all night. Suggest meeting for some food, coffee. or your place or hers. Go with the flow. If you have already escalated somewhat with your body language, then simply suggest hanging out, but always show sexuality. If you are constantly showing your sexuality and bringing it up in your conversation and with your body language. She will associate you with SEX. So even if she is "just meeting you for coffee" sex will be implied. Keep it strong, if she trusts you enough to leave or meet up with you after. There is a awesome chance you are getting laid. Just don't be too pushy, let her dictate the pace, warm her up. get her in the mood.

...If you took president Obama and a regular joe that is alpha, and you stranded them both on a deserted island. Given enough time, Who do you think would be the dominant one? When all other social status is eliminated.

What about the animal kingdom where there is no looks, social status, wealth. etc.
The Alpha is simply the most dominant. He is the leader, only because of this.

Most leaders in our world are leaders through status wealth and education. Not because they are alpha.