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Hey great topic, I have a question.
I have been texting with this girl for some time now (we've met eachother 3 times and kissed each time, nothing more) but sometimes I get the feeling it's going nowhere, I need to make it more sexual.
I know the point of texting is setting up a meeting but due to circumstances we won't get to see eachother for another month atleast.
So my question: Do you have any tips on how I can get more sexual with her through texts? We didn't have any kind of sexual texts yet.
Thanks in advance!
Start a gradual sexual conversation. Start it off friendly, Then as you go, add in some questions.
What is important! is her responses. By starting off subtle, it will allow you to gauge where she is at.
A sexual conversation can escalate very fast, but it can also be shut down just as fast. So it is important to see where she stands, and how much she is willing to talk about.
Since you have already spend time with her, it should not be difficult to get her going.
Start off with comments about what has already happened. ( the kissing) Ask her what her favorite spot on her body is to get kissed and why?
If she replies with a fun and intrigued response, then you escalate.
start off PG rating, but observe how much interest she is showing in her responses.
If you are getting good responses, then keep escalating. ( in my experience 9/10 women will be more then willing to get into dirty talk.
Ask questions like these: (escalating)
What turns you on about men? What physical feature?
What type of clothing do you feel sexiest in?
How spontaneous are you out of 1-10? (if it is flowing, you can get more bold)
Pause then ask, if she minds you asking a personal question. ( if she says sure)
Then start to be more bold.
What do you rate your sexuality from 1-10 ( if she replies with anything over 8 It is usually a sign that she is into dirty talk, 11 is an awesome response)
How much time is enough foreplay?
What's her favorite position?
Is she shaved/ or trimmed?
Does she like to give/recieve oral.
Tell her what you find sexy about her, show her that you think of her sexually with your words.
1-10 questions are a great way to get a woman to open up, they allow an immediate response from a woman with a # value. Immediate responses are more commonly an unconscious action therefor a ( for the most part) true response.
1-10 How naughty do you consider yourself......etc etc
If it is all still flowing at this point, usually she will be asking you questions to.
Start to get right into, but let her dictate how far it will go.
These conversations can go far, but it's important that you react based on her reactions. If her responses become slower with less interest, go back to the level where she was showing interest and stay there. NEVER keep escalating past the point she wants to go ( it can turn a girl off fast)
If she asks where all these questions are coming from, just tell her you have been thinking about her. And that you find her to be SOOOO sexy and you couldn't help but ask her these questions.
Tell her you visualize her all the time and would love some help to see her better in your mind.
I have been so bold as to tell tons and tons of women, that I actually have had a fantasy about them ( most women will love to hear this and will ask you to elaborate< if this happens, make something up that involves her being naughty and sexy to you, be detailed. If she's into you she will show it from her response) I tend to act a little embarrassed and wait for them to ask me repeatedly to tell them. Then i will say ok, but promise not to laugh at it ok.
I don't want to give you too many things to say, it is important that you go with her flow, so let your natural questions come out. But don't be afraid to be bold.
Start off slow, somewhat romantic and passionate questions, then escalate, let her decide how far it will go, but don't shy away, keep it up strong. She will stop it if she gets uncomfortable.
You will be presently surprised, at just how much she will open up. Like i said 90% of women( if interested in you) will go all in with sexual talk, its just a matter going at her pace.
If you do find that you need some more specific questions to ask her, write me back and I'll give you some more stuff to throw at her.
Good luck my friend
Be bold! don't be afraid to ask anything, just remember! you must build up to it. Keep it at her pace.